Enough is Enough: sex related problems

[32what26]

Hi my name is Wilma,

I am 26 my husband is 32. We got married april 2009. Sins we've started to have sex, there have occured many problems. Which could be from the past that is coming up now or that we are doing something wrong. We both had previous partners. We get tested for Hiv every year. Beginning: 2009 I sarted to develop low back pains and shooting pains in my vaginal area while having sex. I went to a gynaecologist, he did a few minor tests and said that it could be endometrioses and that he will do a laparoscopy. With this he scraped my whomb and removed minor endometriosis. After i was healthy again he described some ovalating pills that i used 4 times and said that i ovulated very good. He tested my husband sperms which only said that 2 % are normal and the others are disformed. When me and my husband would have sex, he had to sometimes stop and then he notice that there is alot of red blood. This created sometimes terrible infections and that we could not have freqeunt sex. So i went to my GP and recommended to have a std test done which came back neg. We did a vagina swap which came back neg. I also have once a year a pap smeer which will come back neg but sometimes will show that i have infections. I describe to the doctors that penetrations also is not comfortable and it will be my bladder stopping us so that i could go to the toilet even though i went to the toilet just before sex. We have been trying to conceive for almost 3years and nothing happens. what delays it is or the infections, blood, painfull sex, irratated bladder and or my spastic colon. I have been to the doctors so many times which they just keep ignoring my cry for help. The other problem  is that i cannot have vitamins that are to strong for me because it will create a infections, ex, Vit B, Omega, centrum (A-Z). End: I have done alot of google research and asked for some advice from friends and family. I sarted to drink cranberry pills everyday. I do not use coloured soap or toilet paper. I wear cotton under wear. Try to both before my husband, and wash my washing seperate. The medical aid i have is for platinum health (AngloPlat). Please there is alot that i can discuss but i am tired of suffering and need help please. My fear is that if this will continue that by the time i am to old to have babys and still will suffer with these symptoms that i will be on my own and stop trying to conceive. We do not have regular sex and that we do not eat live and sleep just to have babys but we would like to also have a healthy sex live and not just to have once a month or once every two months. There must be something that i haven't heard of.

Regards,

Wilma

[stressedtodeath]

when u say u have infections..what infections do you have?

[Genesisi]

Wilma,


I would recommend looking into artificial insemination if this problem continues to occur over the coming years.

Many, many couples accross the world have difficulty conceiving, so firstly, your not alone.  I can imagine how hard it must be for you, wanting a child so badly, and a comfortable sex life.  Sometimes endimetriosis can cause fertility issues, so I would ask your doctor to look into your fertility, never mind your husbands.

It doesnt seem to be any kind of sexual infection which is hindering your conception, but I would say that it doesnt sound entirely normal to be bleeding the way you are.

Can you tell me for instance what your last  episode of sexual intercourse was like?  Did you have any pain?  Did you try different positions?  Any blood?  Orgasms?

Thanks,

Adam