No problem! I know there's a lot of conflicting information out there on HPV, and I really think that it would be a much smaller deal if everything about it was just out in the open. You're right, if you're going to be sexually active, you're GOING to get HPV. That's just the way it is. It definitely shouldn't stop you from living a good, healthy, and active lifestyle. Just wear a condom when you do, be educated, and understand the risks. HPV really isn't a big deal, but unfortunately, most people won't/don't see it that way, and there's still a stigma attached to it.
I also agree with vandy. If you were too hard on the girl and you are more educated now, then you should get her some flowers or something. I don't think she was obligated to say anything, and you should let her know that it's a complete non-issue. HPV, by itself, shouldn't be a reason not to develop a relationship that you enjoy. HPV'll find it's way into your relationship one way or another, and then it will go away.
Yo, sounds like this is all good and you're up to speed. I'd also like to add on a personal level that if you were way too hard on her and now you know, hit her up with an apology or something 'cause she could be feeling bad and she shouldn't have to be. Let her know that she probably doesn't have to talk about it anymore even and feel free to educate her on what you've learned. Happy New Year
Thanks, I really appreciate the reply. I've learned a ton about this virus and have been very surprised about certain things about it. Mainly it's been relief. I guess I thought I could go through life without getting anything including this and being sexually active at the same time. I didn't know that was asking alot.
As far as the girl goes, I think I was WAY to hard on her. I didn't know enough about this thing and she didn't really explain it very well. I'll def have to do something about it. Thanks again for your quick response.
Onto your next question- was she ethically bound to tell you she had HPV three years ago? That's really a gray area, but many people (including medical professionals I've consulted) will say no. Because HPV is so prevalent (more than 80% of people get it), it's assumed that after just a few sex partners, you have it already anyway. Should she have told you? Maybe. Was she ethically obligated to tell you? Probably not.
Also, something to keep in mind for the future in case you ever have to go through it- getting upset at potentially being exposed to any STD (including something as common as HPV that the body clears anyway and you probably already have) is natural, but I hope you didn't talk down on the girl or yell at her. In my opinion, there was nothing to be gained by revealing her past HPV status to you, and she didn't HAVE to do it, she seems to have done it as a courtesy to you... and revealing anything that personal is one of the most awkward and scary situations a person can go through. Give her some credit.
Anyway, to sum;
You probably don't have anything to worry about from her, but you may have already caught and cleared the virus anyway (not that you'd ever know.)
In my opinion, she wasn't ethically obligated to tell you anything. In fact, you could have exposed HER to a strain of HPV just as easily as she did to you. You'd just never know since there's no test for men.