Dr. Handsfield-
In September 2007, I had an abnormal pap test result (LSILs) but the two I got after that (April 2008 and September 2008) were clear. However, my most recent pap test came back saying that I had HPV-16. Needless to say, I was really upset. I was scared for my health, but also for the health of my partner. When him and I started dating in 2006, I had an STI test and it came back clear so we began a sexually intimate relationship with that in mind (he was a virgin). We're in a long distance relationship right now so we're not having a lot of sex, but when I saw him over the holidays I was totally devastated. I feel dirty and ashamed. I thought I was a good, honest, self-respecting person but it's hard to feel that way when you have an STI.
I've been doing a lot of research on the internet (a lot of which is garbage, I know) but I can't relax about it and have been extremely depressed. I feel like I've ruined my life and that, if my boyfriend knew, he wouldn't want me anymore. I know I'm making the situation worse by not telling him, but I honestly believe that he would not sleep with me again if he knew and would pass judgment and maybe not want to be with me anymore.
HPV is hard to understand because I hear "cancer" and get scared, but then I hear from some doctors (like my doctor and you) that it's not a big deal... It's so unsettling and I wish I just didn't know the truth. I can't sleep and I've lost 15 pounds since September because of my emotional state over it. I'm worried that since I had that LSIL test result at age 21, that I could have cervical cancer by 30 and not be able to have kids or that I'll die young.
I just don't know what to do now. Life doesn't seem worth living if I can't be married, have children, and be happy and healthy.