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Hpv concern
Hello. I have clinical depression and lately have obsessing about past mistakes. I love my wife and my kids and never intended to stray. It happened. I got tested. All clear. I feel I can't tell my wife but I have a concern about HPV.
My first mistake was 4.5 years ago. A co-worker surprisingly followed me to my hotel room at a training. I was very drunk. She began to kiss me and I told her I couldn't have sex as I am married. She began to give me oral and as the room was spinning I just laid there. Then I felt her move up for what I thought was a kiss but then felt me inside her. After only a matter of seconds I ended this and left. Told my wife about this but left the sex part out due to its brevity.
Fast forward four years. I was drunk and talking with someone. Somewhere in conversation mentioned I've always been curious about giving another man a bj. Not attracted to men but just to this single thing. Well, he was same way. Said I could try it on him. Did for a minute or two. Didn't think. It was purely out of curiosity. Didn't like it. The reality was not what was in mind. I stopped and did not do to completion (no ejaculation). I never would have done this sober and I did not care for it. I can't believe what I've done. These two brief things are the only issues I have. Neither my wife or I had sex with anyone else before marriage but have had oral sex with others before we got together.
Should I be worried about HPV, oral or otherwise? Her last pap 2 years ago was normal. I have no symptoms. I quit drinking and will never stray again. I'm worried she may skip paps in future. What are my odds? Should I be worried? Please don't chastise it judge me. I don't know how I put myself in this situation. I'm very depressed. Thanks.
My first mistake was 4.5 years ago. A co-worker surprisingly followed me to my hotel room at a training. I was very drunk. She began to kiss me and I told her I couldn't have sex as I am married. She began to give me oral and as the room was spinning I just laid there. Then I felt her move up for what I thought was a kiss but then felt me inside her. After only a matter of seconds I ended this and left. Told my wife about this but left the sex part out due to its brevity.
Fast forward four years. I was drunk and talking with someone. Somewhere in conversation mentioned I've always been curious about giving another man a bj. Not attracted to men but just to this single thing. Well, he was same way. Said I could try it on him. Did for a minute or two. Didn't think. It was purely out of curiosity. Didn't like it. The reality was not what was in mind. I stopped and did not do to completion (no ejaculation). I never would have done this sober and I did not care for it. I can't believe what I've done. These two brief things are the only issues I have. Neither my wife or I had sex with anyone else before marriage but have had oral sex with others before we got together.
Should I be worried about HPV, oral or otherwise? Her last pap 2 years ago was normal. I have no symptoms. I quit drinking and will never stray again. I'm worried she may skip paps in future. What are my odds? Should I be worried? Please don't chastise it judge me. I don't know how I put myself in this situation. I'm very depressed. Thanks.
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Thanks life360. And if anyone else in the community that has also spent time learning about this wants to chime in, please do!
I'm a good person. I suffer from depression and OCD intrusive thoughts. My oral episode was the result of one of my long-held intrusive thoughts plus alcohol. After that it was like the film of the movie in my head broke and that thought was replaced by fear of disappointing my family.
Thanks to everyone in this community.
I'm a good person. I suffer from depression and OCD intrusive thoughts. My oral episode was the result of one of my long-held intrusive thoughts plus alcohol. After that it was like the film of the movie in my head broke and that thought was replaced by fear of disappointing my family.
Thanks to everyone in this community.
Yes its rare and not something to be overly concerned about at all.
Thanks for your reply. Yes, that puts my mind at ease. But should I be concerned about my brief oral more recently? I have read genital to oral HPV is rare, especially from one brief exposure and also very rare to give to my wife if I did have oral hpv and gave her oral. I've been told that's really not something to worry about. Is that true?
Hi, any exposure to HPV would have cleared up by itself by now from an incedent 5 years ago
I've also talked to a doctor and will be meeting with a therapist. Please help me! I just wish I could go back and feel normal.
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