I was diagnosed today as having genital warts, and my world fell apart. I am not so much worried about the disease itself but of the social ramifications. Let me start off by saying that I am a beautiful, professional, physically active 28-year old woman. I knew that something like this could happen to me, but I never thought it would. I used to always hope in my heart that only low-lives caught diseases such as this (no disrepect intended). I never thought it could actually happen TO ME! Especially since I had always been so careful with selecting partners, using protection and getting regular check-ups and tests. Truth is, genital warts don't care if you live in the inner city or are a successful, professional person traveling the world. We are all suseptibel. But as I was saying, it isn't so much the symptoms I am worried about, it's having to inform potential partners that I carry the virus. Up to now, I had lived a modern life-style with changing partners and occassional one-night stands and flings. However, never in excess! And I have been seeing a nice and decent guy for about a month now, and soon after I got the diagnosis, I called him. It was the responsible and moral thing to do. Now he is going to get himself tested as well. However, in regard to us, he said he needs time to let this sink in and didn't stop by to see me as he had initially planned before the news. So being honest in this case may have cost me my first relationship. I've been doing research online, and the prevelance of genital warts is apalling and shocking with most people carrying the virus at least sometime in their lifetime, and that every year 1 million Americans get infected. And of course, as with most sexually transmitted diseases, the male may be a carrier but have no symptoms and the disease cannot be detacted, even if he is a carrier, and we women are then denounced and stigmatized. However, I am not worried about the warts, as those are treatable. I really hope there are a lot of understanding men out there. My mother told me that I have nothing to be ashamed of and have no excuses to make. It is as it is, and could have happened to anybody - as it most likely already has because most don't show any symptoms but can still pass it along.... What I am hoping to look for on this site is people with similar situations. I want to discuss out others are dealing with the same problem - not so much the warts themslves but the changes to the previous lifestyle. My greatest concern is not so much being able to find a partner who will accept me for me - warts and all. My worries are of finding a partner who will risk the disease to be with me. Does that make sense?