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Telling a Guy you have HPV
This past January I have been diagnosed with high risk HPV. Just this past Friday, I have had a pap to determine my HPV and pap status. I recently broke up with my boyfriend, who I immediately told that I had HPV the moment I found out, and he was fine with it. Now, I am finally seeing someone new, and I am very scared to tell him about this because it is really the first time I've ever had to tell someone that I have this condition who could leave me. I know it could hurt if he doesn't want me anymore, but I want to be honest from the very beginning with him. What is a good convo starter for this?? I am 23, I don't want to scare him away. I have researched a few online, however, I have yet to find any conversations that I would actually say. I am not good with words anyways, lol, and I know that I would have wanted to know. I respect and admire him. suggestions?? horror stories?? good stories?? lol.
I'm also a young girl who had to tell a new partner she had HPV..
I have low risk HPV. As soon as I suspected something I told him straight away and like you I was dreading it. I thought he'd judge me and leave me. I basically told him about the night I spent with the guy, what had happened, then that led me to telling him I was suspicious I'd caught something and so I wanted to make an appointment. He came with me and I told him when I came out. He was dissapointed but I knew a lot about it so I told him all the reasuring facts - it is likely to go in 3-24 months, it wont lead to anything serious etc and he was really understanding about it. He said he didnt want it to get in the way of us even though we'd only been together a month. 7 months later, were so happy and were in the most honest and meaningful relationship. Having HPV has taught us to be open with each other. Once you have that conversation with someone, you can't really feel embaressed about other things anymore. We are so comfortable with each other and we always say we wouldn't be if I hadn't of had that difficult conversation with him.
Just be honest. Tell him all about it, tell him its common and the stereotype is so false. When I got hpv, I had only had 2 sexual relationships and I've heard of many women being diagnosed after there first sexual relationship. It happens.
If your partner reacts badly to it, it's there loss. This will be a test to a relationship but it can show peoples true colours and if it's meant to be - it will be. Good luck.
I have low risk HPV. As soon as I suspected something I told him straight away and like you I was dreading it. I thought he'd judge me and leave me. I basically told him about the night I spent with the guy, what had happened, then that led me to telling him I was suspicious I'd caught something and so I wanted to make an appointment. He came with me and I told him when I came out. He was dissapointed but I knew a lot about it so I told him all the reasuring facts - it is likely to go in 3-24 months, it wont lead to anything serious etc and he was really understanding about it. He said he didnt want it to get in the way of us even though we'd only been together a month. 7 months later, were so happy and were in the most honest and meaningful relationship. Having HPV has taught us to be open with each other. Once you have that conversation with someone, you can't really feel embaressed about other things anymore. We are so comfortable with each other and we always say we wouldn't be if I hadn't of had that difficult conversation with him.
Just be honest. Tell him all about it, tell him its common and the stereotype is so false. When I got hpv, I had only had 2 sexual relationships and I've heard of many women being diagnosed after there first sexual relationship. It happens.
If your partner reacts badly to it, it's there loss. This will be a test to a relationship but it can show peoples true colours and if it's meant to be - it will be. Good luck.
Also I have not yet gotten my test results back yet. This Friday they should be out hopefully. I would LOVVVVVVe a guy's perspective on this lol! thanks!
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