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Hello,
About a year ago I was diagnosed with a high risk HPV. I went through a conization a week after my diagnosis and since then my many many paps have been normal which is great and I'm very thankful! Although, the reason why I went to the doctor in the first place was because I noticed a small bump that wasn't there before. My doctor examined it and siad that it was most likely a skin tag. So, every pap I had my doctor look at it just to make sure there were no changes and every time he gave me the same answer until a week ago. He has now diagnosed it as HPV.
I was in a committed relationship for the past 3 years and my boyfriend (now ex) has never had any signs or symptoms so we both agreed with my doctors skin tag diagnosis. Which the ignorance at the time was fine because there was no stress on our relationship.
I have now started dating an amazing guy who I am completely terrified of losing. We did have protected sex twice as well as oral sex that was not protected. I know we should have waited till our test results came back but I had no reason to believe that I would potentially pass genital warts to him. Now with the embarrassment attached, I have to explain to him about my unsightly std. My biggest fear is that he will not understand that I unknowningly may have infected him. This relationship is so new that I wouldn't blame him for leaving nor getting mad.
I'm just hoping somone could give me advise on how and what to say when I enclose this information to him.
Any insight will help.
Brittney.
About a year ago I was diagnosed with a high risk HPV. I went through a conization a week after my diagnosis and since then my many many paps have been normal which is great and I'm very thankful! Although, the reason why I went to the doctor in the first place was because I noticed a small bump that wasn't there before. My doctor examined it and siad that it was most likely a skin tag. So, every pap I had my doctor look at it just to make sure there were no changes and every time he gave me the same answer until a week ago. He has now diagnosed it as HPV.
I was in a committed relationship for the past 3 years and my boyfriend (now ex) has never had any signs or symptoms so we both agreed with my doctors skin tag diagnosis. Which the ignorance at the time was fine because there was no stress on our relationship.
I have now started dating an amazing guy who I am completely terrified of losing. We did have protected sex twice as well as oral sex that was not protected. I know we should have waited till our test results came back but I had no reason to believe that I would potentially pass genital warts to him. Now with the embarrassment attached, I have to explain to him about my unsightly std. My biggest fear is that he will not understand that I unknowningly may have infected him. This relationship is so new that I wouldn't blame him for leaving nor getting mad.
I'm just hoping somone could give me advise on how and what to say when I enclose this information to him.
Any insight will help.
Brittney.
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I can help free,you arrange collection from uk as a letter,if you are ln uk it will be free I can post it free of charge,otherwise go online and sending and collecting is same price,I will pack it and there will be instructions how to apply,all I need feedback on th forum and promiss to be faithful with your partner,God bless us all
Well, unless he was a complete virgin prior to meeting you, he had no idea of his HPV status. Men cannot be tested except for a biopsy of a genital wart. No man knows his HPV health and they rely on the test results of their female partners to know. That you have been diagnosed with it means he probably has it too. Sex with active warts have a good chance to spread it to someone. But it may not have happened. No one can point to one sex partner or sex act and definitely say that this was the one.
Tell your partner the facts of the virus. Just because you have a a positive diagnosis now, it was not known at the time. He may not ever get a wart. The other important fact is that low-risk strains that produce warts do not lead to cancer. It is just a cosmetic issue. He should get examined by hos doctor annually anyway. Oral sex that he may have performed on you does not mean he will get oral HPV nor does any oral sex performed by you mean he will get warts. His dentist probably already examines his mouth annually. You probably don't have oral HPV. It is much harder to get it that way compared to genital sex. Here is a handy link to prepare you and share with him.
http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv.htm
Finally, tell him that if he has slept with 4 or more partners in his life then he mostly likely has been exposed to it. It is unavoidable, even with condoms since they don't cover much genital skin. There are many people on this site who only had safe sex and still got warts. Let him know that you two share this virus together now. Most doctors would recommend condom use during your recovery period as latex condoms prevent re-occurrences. After you recover your health and you are wart-free for 3-6 months, you two can have all of the un-safe sex you want for the rest of your lives because you cannot re-infect each other. Do remind him that if he decides to leave you that unless he keeps your diagnosis secret, that he could be exposing others to the strain. Else, he will always have to "have the talk" with future partners. And if future partners do not understand the facts, they will run away from him. If he loves you and if he is intelligent enough to understand the facts about HPV as documented on that CDC link, then he will stay with you. When a man says "they are clean" all it means is that they have no positive diagnosis for the tests that man can take. Unfortunately, men cannot be tested for this virus.
Most of us here got infected unintentionally. We can never figure out who or when. The only safe sex is no sex. That is a fact. Given what some of us did in college and the rise in divorces and sex while middle aged, it is no wonder than 8 out of 10 sexually active people have been exposed to it. Good luck!
Tell your partner the facts of the virus. Just because you have a a positive diagnosis now, it was not known at the time. He may not ever get a wart. The other important fact is that low-risk strains that produce warts do not lead to cancer. It is just a cosmetic issue. He should get examined by hos doctor annually anyway. Oral sex that he may have performed on you does not mean he will get oral HPV nor does any oral sex performed by you mean he will get warts. His dentist probably already examines his mouth annually. You probably don't have oral HPV. It is much harder to get it that way compared to genital sex. Here is a handy link to prepare you and share with him.
http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/stdfact-hpv.htm
Finally, tell him that if he has slept with 4 or more partners in his life then he mostly likely has been exposed to it. It is unavoidable, even with condoms since they don't cover much genital skin. There are many people on this site who only had safe sex and still got warts. Let him know that you two share this virus together now. Most doctors would recommend condom use during your recovery period as latex condoms prevent re-occurrences. After you recover your health and you are wart-free for 3-6 months, you two can have all of the un-safe sex you want for the rest of your lives because you cannot re-infect each other. Do remind him that if he decides to leave you that unless he keeps your diagnosis secret, that he could be exposing others to the strain. Else, he will always have to "have the talk" with future partners. And if future partners do not understand the facts, they will run away from him. If he loves you and if he is intelligent enough to understand the facts about HPV as documented on that CDC link, then he will stay with you. When a man says "they are clean" all it means is that they have no positive diagnosis for the tests that man can take. Unfortunately, men cannot be tested for this virus.
Most of us here got infected unintentionally. We can never figure out who or when. The only safe sex is no sex. That is a fact. Given what some of us did in college and the rise in divorces and sex while middle aged, it is no wonder than 8 out of 10 sexually active people have been exposed to it. Good luck!
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