Frustrated and freaked

[J2210]

Dr  I am a 39 male and have had HPV in the form of warts since I was 15.  The went missed diagnosed until 34.  I was told they were moles by my family Doctor and they never grew and stayed the same.  At 28  went to my dermatologists to have them rmoved for cosmetic purposes.  He called it a condyloma, said it was no big deal and used cryo to remove them.  I still did not make the connection to warts.  Then after 6 years they resurfaced in the same spot.  I went back to him and he said again it is a condyloma, when I asked him what a condyloma is he said warts.  I freaked.  For one I am married to this beatuiful person and I want to protect her.  SO we went to her Doctor and he reassured us that she should be fine.  He explained that she was already exposed to the virus and she would have contacted over the last 6 years if she was going to.  That was 6 years ago.  I am happy to say she still is fine.  She shows no signs of warts and her hpv screens all have been negative.

My concerns is that every 3 years my warts return in the same spot or in a different area.  There is never more than one or two.  So I keep exposing her.  AM I a ticking time bomb and will she get it eventually from me.  We never have sex when the warts are visible.  Both my dermetologists and her OB said then its ok to have sex if everything is clear.  But I read here that may not be the case.  These always appear when I am run down averaging only 4 hours of sleep the past six months, cold etc.

So my question is one, is it just a matter of time before she gets it from me?  We have been together 12 years and we have been each others only partner since then.  That I am confident of.

Two when is it ok to have sex again?   It was our anniversary in June we went on a trip had sex.  The warts reappeared in July.  They were cleared up and we went on a vacation in August.  We both agreed to use a condom just in case, and we did.  Three weeks later they resurfaced in two different spots.  

Lastly, do I have to be concerned about hand towels and bath towels being picked up or used by other people after me?  I have three young kids and want to make sure I am protecting them.

[alexdelong]

I try to browse the expert forum before posting, but I forgot today.

I usually don't like to reply to questions that the doctors have addressed because any contradictions in my post would be wrong, but might add to confusion.

So......refer to the doctor's post.

[alexdelong]

No real risk of spreading HPV through towels or any indirect contact.

It is really unusual to deal with genital warts for 20 years. Most people will clear the virus within a year, and over 90% will clear it within 2 years. Have the dermatologists recommended a biopsy? While dermatologists will usually get this diagnosed on visual inspection, a biopsy is often considered in atypical cases.

Most couples share HPV infections, but many people do not get, or notice, genital warts. In all cases, the same stats about clearance apply. If you have/had genital warts, your wife has probably been infected and subsequently cleared the infection. She would now be immune to this specific type of HPV. Couples transmit the infection once, but don't continue to pass it back and forth. That is why the doctors are not concerned about continued sexual activity.