No. It's definitely not HPV or herpes.
HPV would either cause you no symptoms at all (HPV types 16 and 18) or genital warts (HPV types 6 and 11). It would be very difficult to mistake redness for warts.
As for herpes- herpes looks like a series of blisters, not generalized redness. The blisters would crust over. They are also extremely painful. You would know if you had herpes.
I would advise you listen to the nurse. If you are still paranoid, go directly to a doctor to get checked out. If I had to guess, you don't have HPV or herpes.
Das is prolly right but get tested at 3 month mark for peace of mind and your safety. Follow up wid docs till you know what it is or nothing.