Well i do believe i have are husbands affairs firgured out finally,,,men cheat cause most of them are unhappy,,either sexually or emotionally,,,unless they just have a sexual problem,,generally speaking,,as are relationships get longer and children and finances come along,,the stress and relationship takes a turn to one or the other,,one strays because there spouse is pre-occupied,,bills pile up the only time you spend together is going to the grocery store,,or arguing about something because frustrations pile up,,and neglecting each other is the daily routine,,one of you by chance has been noticed,,and some-one other than your spouse finds you attractive,,payes attention to you and flatters you,,they like the attention,,ego boost right there,,your in your own little world now,,,sneaking out lies etc etc,,the mistress is always up to par because they dont have nothing better to do,,but doll up and give there best performance in bed cause oviously they no if the cheaters marriage was all that they would not be engageing in an affair,,,nice isnt it,,,well not really,,because i do believe men can still love there wife,,they just lose themselves caught up in the thrill,,till the **** hits the fan as it always does,,why?cause the misstress expects to much they really believe these men will leave there wives,,but 99 percent dont,,its the thrill new sex new ego boost ,,etc etc,,the only people that make the second choice is there wives,,if we stay or go,,but buy the time the **** hits the fan,,they have hurt and ruined alot of lives ,including there childrens,,,,this is my stay,,if you feel this way dont have an affair,,its selfish,,dont hurt the people you are suppose to claim you care ,,if you need this boost,,take a seperation and stand up as a humane,,,affairs are never mistakes they are choices,,like the choices we have to seperate befor an affair goes on,,you should have enough self respect for the people around you to make that choice,,life is not all about you,,its also about the people around you,,who stand by your side,,,and for every one who has been a victum,,i no how you feel