I don't know what to do any more......I have lost hope.....

[msmarlowe]

5 weeks ago my mom tried killing herself after she drank 3 24 packs of beer. I put her in the hospital....she stayed in there for 2 weeks, she been out for 3 weeks...with no drinking...then this happens last night:


I am very upset. I was lied to.....so after mom got out of the hospital she said she was going to stop drinking...

1. because she stated that she wanted to stop
2. because she is taking meds that could make her really sick if she drank with it.

She has been going to AA meetings, and appointments with district 19. So today I took her to food lion to get food and stuff. When we got out of the food lion she stated she need to go to the store to get cigarettes. I said ok, went over there. I said in the car and waited for her...it took her a little long but I didn't think much about it....she got into the car and on the way home I looked down and in her purse was a 24 ounce of beer. I didn't say anything at first.....I called Neil and asked him what I should do. He told me to confront her...by that time I got to her house she went in there before i did....So on the way to district 19 I asked her...Did you buy a beer when we were at the store?, she said, " no, I did not" I said ok, I am going to give you an opportunity to be honest with me and tell me the truth...she said again no she did not get a beer. I told her I saw it and she still did not admit too it. After I dropped her off at district 19 and went back to her house. I found one beer behind her bed...it wasn't that cold and it was empty. One of her roommates were there and she told me that my mom went to the store early that morning. I went back to her room and found the one she got with me. I am soo angry...not just because of the beer...it's because she LIED to my FACE.

I picked her up at 7:30pm and took her home. I went inside with her sat her down and told her she was a lyer and that her was her beers. I gave them back to her the empty and the full one....And left......I don't know what to do....

[dominosarah]

Yes you do have to keep yourself healthy and i am glad to see you doing that.  I wish you the best in this and remember you are not alone here.  Many of us have been thru this or are going thru this.  I have also been in your mothers shoes.  Please know you are not alone here and lean on us.      sara

[have 2 kids]

3- 24 pks of beer at one time???  I have known heavy drinkers and they never came close to drinking that .     What store sells single beers?  

[msmarlowe]

Thank you...Yes I have gone to a few Alnon meetings...And I think I am going to stop taking her places....I am trying be understanding and everything that I need to do but I also have to keep my self healthy "mentally"...... I have my own problems.....

[dominosarah]

You are in a tough situation right now.  I wish i had better things to tell you but i dont think that is the case.  You will not be able to make your mom stop drinking until she is ready to stop on her own.  Nothing you can say will make her do this.  Only she can make herself stop.  I know this hurts sitting there watching her do this and the lies hurt also.  Addiction affects the whole family.  Have you thought about going to alanon??  They could help you sort out some of these feelings.  Also the substance abuse forum is helpful too.  You may have to quit taking your mom places and just let her be on her own as hard as that may be.  Hopefully she will see what is happening to her and want to stop.  I hope you can find some support where you live.          sara