What Now

[nearly_done]

I believe my wife is going through extreme menopause with major depression. Hot flashes, paranoia, anxiety,  irrational, memory loss, withdrawn from friends and no contact with family outside of the immediate family, Plays mario kart 8-to-10 hours a day, has greatly reduced her cooking to the point where the kids complain about being hungry and she doesn't talk to me, except to complain about me or one of the kids. She won't seek treatment, doesn't admit to anything being wrong, and will not go to counseling either with me or without me. I've tried sending her e-mails with menopause websites, she confides in no one anymore and therefore, there is no third party to provide advice to her. I have lost my partner. We do absolutely nothing together. I'm exhausted, lonely, concerned for my kids who absolutely know something is wrong. I am about to throw the towel in on this marriage. I can't continue like this for much longer.  Any advice, what I'm I dealing with?

[loup66]

i remember my mum being very similar when i was in my early teens. It was hell for me and my family. I started skipping school and getting into trouble just to get attention from her! Looking back, i dont knoow how or why my dad put up with it but he did. Any way, ive been having anxiety depression lack of sleep and such but i know its not the same as i have had in the past and i tell myself it will pass and im getting on with it. U need to get ur wife to a gp or get one to come to u. U will get help if u ask for it. I cant tell u if it is menopause but if its affecting your family, she needs help.

[dawnangela]

Im sorry you are suffering with this, as your wife is suffering as well. it could also be something else besides menopause, i thought this with me but it was my thyroid. I do hope you can get her help and the treatment she needs no matter what it is, you sound very caring for your wife and family, dont give up on her yet..