Not quite sure whats going on...ED

So all cards laid out on the table, i am a 22 year old guy, who has not had sex, and to be fairly honest im not bad looking either...so its not exactly like thats why =P

So basically ive been masturbating since about the age of 14/15 and sometimes as much as 4 to 5 times a day, though rarely. Usually its once or twice a day, sometimes not at all.

Over the last year or so Ive had a good few (maybe 5 or 6) chances to have sex with no strings, but have passed down the opportunity due to confidence issues with regards to having sex for the first time with someone Im not in a relationship with.

So now for the kinda weird part. I recently bought a certain 'sex object' called a Fleshlight jsut out of curiousity, now I find that when using it my erection is less substancial, and i find it alot easier to lose it. I find that normal masturbation i reach about 6 1/2 to 7 inches. but when using the 'object' it is maybe 5 1/2 and it feels *alot* less solid. And as the latter is going to be more alike to actual intercourse im worried that perhaps masturbation has caused me to become to akin to the tight grip and is going to make sex difficult for me.

Another thing to note here is that i recently left my job and now work less hours (more spare time, lol) and find that the 'morning glory' is very rare.

Im thinking perhaps there is some sort of ED effecting me, as i cant imagine being able to have intercourse with a woman successfully but maybe im jsut over-thinking it.

In about 2 weeks time im going to have another chance to 'do the deed' and im contemplating it, ive known the girl for probably 6 years and shes a nice enough person.

I was wondering if perhaps it may be an idea to get hold of some sort of Viagra and use it for the first few times just to balance the confidence issue perhaps? If so where could i purchase some, i dont really want to do so in person (bit embarressing). Or perhaps I need to just really stop doing it for a while?


Anyway! Thanks for reading, and i apologise for the, perhaps un-necessary, detail i went into a few times...thought it was relevant =/

[harrald]

I had somewhat similar problems with erectile dysfunction that I later learned would raise its head prior to sexual intercourse. My parents pushed me towards medicine(profession)at an early age and I began to lose confidence in myself. This lack of confidence left me with a limp penis; I always thought I had to perform for women that made the problems worse. Unfortunely, when my Dad died, I regained confidence and never had a problem again with erectile dysfunction.

Drugs like Viagra(spelling?)are for guys like me, over 50, and are not recommended for young guys like you. A medical urologist is the best person to discuss your ongoing sexual problems. If you have medical insurance, it may pay for consultation trips to a urologist. Check-it-out, and the meetings can be a secret without anyone knowing you are seeking help.
Harrald