will i ever get hard again without looking at porn??

[jay_2702]

hello im jay i used to look at porn loads but it was usually foot fetish porn as i like girls feet but i also love sex and just use that as foreplay. I dont always tell girls about my fetish and nobody knows i masturbate to foot fetish porn so its a part of me id prefer hidden, which makes it hard to write about on here.

im 22 and i recently went out new years 2013 and ended up taking a girl back to a hotel room to have sex. she was a very good looking girl with awesome eyes and an amazing body. at first i went back to the room with her, her mate and her cousin and was hoping to sleep with her cousin, but when she fell asleep this girl asked if she could use me as a pillow and then started putting her hands down my jeans.

straight away she took me back to her room and ripped my clothes off. I was very drunk at this point and was hoping that it was only because i was drunk that i couldnt get hard. She was asking why i couldnt get hard and performing loads of foreplay on me but getting stressed out by the fact i couldnt get an erection which was really stressing me out also. I hadnt had sex in a couple of months and this was a perfect night on new year with a very gorgeous girl. i even tried kissing her feet which would normally get me hard straight away but she just stopped and said do you like feet or something? and because im not very confident with it i just didnt say anything which put me off even more. in the end we both just went to sleep and ive been depressed over this night ever since. ive found out the name of the girl and have been wanting to message her over facebook but that could be a very bad move.

but my question is now i have gone cold turkey off the foot fetish porn and even porn alltogether, should i be able to get an erection to have sex without thinking about a girls feet? i hate the fact i have this fetish but hopefully i can cure it. i think the only thing to get me over being depressed about this night is to have a good night of sex with a girl and get a hard on without struggling. i understand drinking makes it worse but i used to get one evenutally even if it did take some time.

be very grateful if anybody could help or has the same  sort of problem to give me some advice. im going to continue not looking at porn and hopefully i will get my confidence back and be able to perform in the bedroom again with no trouble. if not im in a very depressing situation.


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[jay_2702]

thanks for taking the time to write :)

yeah i hope it was the alcohol too maybe i just need to calm down on nights out incase i get lucky again. i dont want a repeat of this it has depressed me quite a bit.

there is a few girls who dont mind, or like there feet being played with but i dont want to do it to the wrong girl and my secret get out as it could ruin my life and destroy my confidence completely! i did get to a point at one stage where i was so hooked on womens feet i would go through an antisocial stage and masturbate to them but then i would feel like a freak but i couldnt help it. its a vicious circle i know but so far i havnt been on a porn website since at least the 28th of december last year. its harder than i thought giving it up but i need my confidence back somehow!.

and its funny you mention posture and working out, i do a lot of working out and am confident in my physique. my posture slips sometimes without me knowing but i think thats because ive gone shy through loss off confidence.

but again thanks for the feedback i need to find ways to boost self esteem

[Caryopteris]

I think it was the alcohol.

From a woman's perspective, I had a boyfriend who had a foot fetish that was a small part of our sex.  I was young and I thought it was cute, but then some girls are more uptight.

When I got married, my husband liked feet above everything else.  It seemed immature and unattractive to me when it went on and on.  

I suggest you seek balance.  It tends to be guys that want to be under women's feet.  Maybe pump up your testosterone by working out and building up your muscles and try to be more assertive.  Speak with a deep voice.  Have good posture.