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premature ejaculation, need help
ive been dealing with this all my life and i would like to find somthing to help my condition. my wife and i have sex often and i have to satisfy her in other ways besides intercorse. is there a drug or exersize or surgury that can help me stay longer.
I stoped takeing paxil ten days ago for o. c. d. I now have premature ejaclation. will this change in time.
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I would love to know what kind of answer tyme was given. I have the same problem he has
thank
Ray
I would love to know what kind of answer tyme was given. I have the same problem he has
thank
Ray
i am a 18yr old male who has been sexual for 2 years now. until now i have been one of the best lover's of all my sex partners. begining of this year i suddenly started loosing this title with my current girlfriend. i usually didnt have a actual relationship with my sex partners but i have been goin with my current girl friend since septmeber 2005 and this the longest relationship i have ever had, and also i really care about her. i have given her "the best sex" she has ever had, but since the begining of this year the sex has been gettin worse. i seem to ejeactulate within the first minutes of intercoarse. this is a totaly new thing for me and im ashamed. this consitantly happens and now its getting to the point to where i cant even hold my erection after i ejacualte until she has her orgasm. and it is effecting her sex drive to where she doesnt want it anymore, and i cant have that. i went to doctor and they gave me a few viagra. i am ashamed that i am so young and i have to take viagra, or even have to take any meds for this. it is really hard for me to go tfrom a sex machine to a bad sex partner. im basically looking for any advice on solving this problem as soon as possible. it would b a huge help, please email me at ***@****.
Numbing agent in a condom wears off in a matter of minutes, it isn't physically screwing with the chemicals in your body, vastly different. As different as using a topical numbing agent versus a general anestetic.
And in many cases, it ca an be psychological problem. There is not always a physiological reason for PE. Why introduce something to your system that can cause a multitude of side effects for something as minor as longer sexual performance. I can all but guarantee this isn't as big of an issue for his wife, with whom is claims to be doing this for.
Andi
And in many cases, it ca an be psychological problem. There is not always a physiological reason for PE. Why introduce something to your system that can cause a multitude of side effects for something as minor as longer sexual performance. I can all but guarantee this isn't as big of an issue for his wife, with whom is claims to be doing this for.
Andi
"as minor as longer sexual performance."
For some men, this can be devestating and debilitating. Anything that can help such a person should be considered.
For some men, this can be devestating and debilitating. Anything that can help such a person should be considered.
You said the meds made him feel like he was "numb", then you suggest using numbing agents on a condom to numb the penis, what's the difference?
PE is not a pyschological condition despite what people might say.
Cheers.
PE is not a pyschological condition despite what people might say.
Cheers.
"you could also end up with delayed ejaculation"
That's the whole point, SSRI's delay ejaculation, once you go off the meds, the delay goes away, it's not permanent. And yes SSRI's can affect libido, but again that's the whole point, it makes ejaculation more difficult, but for someone who can last two or three strokes and needs help, it's a gift.
The squeeze method to strengthen sphincter/pelvic muscles as mentioned earlier is also good.
That's the whole point, SSRI's delay ejaculation, once you go off the meds, the delay goes away, it's not permanent. And yes SSRI's can affect libido, but again that's the whole point, it makes ejaculation more difficult, but for someone who can last two or three strokes and needs help, it's a gift.
The squeeze method to strengthen sphincter/pelvic muscles as mentioned earlier is also good.
By delayed ejaculation, I meant no ejaculation - or at least extreme difficulty coming. I can't imagine anything more frustrating than being totally aroused but unable to orgasm.
I guess my point was that I think the SSRIs should be a last resort, especially when there are so many exercises to try first. It's true, though, that none of them are a quick fix, certainly not as quick or effortless as medication. All of them require time, effort and patience - but my feeling is that it's well worth it :-)
I guess my point was that I think the SSRIs should be a last resort, especially when there are so many exercises to try first. It's true, though, that none of them are a quick fix, certainly not as quick or effortless as medication. All of them require time, effort and patience - but my feeling is that it's well worth it :-)
My husband had concerns about his performance for years. While trying rx treatment for SAD, he was prescribed prozac. It did not take long at all for it to affect his performance. At first, he was thrilled (I had no complaints before) but in a very short amount of time, he greatly regretted ever taking it. The way he described it was a constant numb feeling. Now, you may think it will make things better, but if your wife finds out you are not enjoying things, it will impact her as well. I have always been very confident in my ability to "charm" my husband, but this made me question myself on many levels and in the end did way more harm than good for either one of us and it took weeks for the meds to work their way out of his system. Think long and hard (no pun intended) before seeking out this treatment.
Another alternative is to seek out other ways to help deal with it. I believe my dh at one point was researching something called the Boston medical group that starts with meds, but really focuses on psychological issues and a biofeedback type approach in helping you to overcome the issues. I would discuss this with your doctor, find out if there is a medical cause before making any drastic steps.
One more thing, I am willing to bet this is something that bothers you way more than it would ever bother your wife. Not many women want sex to last for hours, in fact most polls say that even 1/2 hour is too long. Focus more on foreplay, maybe throw a condom on with the numbing agents during foreplay, and then work your way into intercourse. Remember women are more into the emotional connection, not the physical act. The littler things you do for her every day mean more to her than sex.
Good luck!
Andi
Another alternative is to seek out other ways to help deal with it. I believe my dh at one point was researching something called the Boston medical group that starts with meds, but really focuses on psychological issues and a biofeedback type approach in helping you to overcome the issues. I would discuss this with your doctor, find out if there is a medical cause before making any drastic steps.
One more thing, I am willing to bet this is something that bothers you way more than it would ever bother your wife. Not many women want sex to last for hours, in fact most polls say that even 1/2 hour is too long. Focus more on foreplay, maybe throw a condom on with the numbing agents during foreplay, and then work your way into intercourse. Remember women are more into the emotional connection, not the physical act. The littler things you do for her every day mean more to her than sex.
Good luck!
Andi
I don't know. I think there are many things I'd try before resorting to using medication, especially the SSRIs. This happens to be only one of several possible sexual side effects - you could also end up losing your libido, or even end up with delayed ejaculation.
So, I'd start by picking up a copy of "Great Sex" by Michael Castleman. The kind of non-genitally focused, massage-oriented sex he advocates can help you learn to control your ejaculation, and is exactly the kind of sex that most women love :-)
In the meantime, one thing that can help is tuning into your body. While masturbating, pay close attention to your triggers, how it feels as you get close to coming, how it feels when you're just about to come, etc. That way, when you're having partner sex you'll be able to recognize the sensations, and stop before you reach that point.
I also wanted to stress that about 70% of women can't come without direct clitoral stimulation, which intercourse doesn't provide. If you want to last longer so that both of you can enjoy the pleasure longer, that's fantastic. But if your real goal is to make her come from intercourse alone, it might not ever happen - no matter how long you last.
Good luck!
So, I'd start by picking up a copy of "Great Sex" by Michael Castleman. The kind of non-genitally focused, massage-oriented sex he advocates can help you learn to control your ejaculation, and is exactly the kind of sex that most women love :-)
In the meantime, one thing that can help is tuning into your body. While masturbating, pay close attention to your triggers, how it feels as you get close to coming, how it feels when you're just about to come, etc. That way, when you're having partner sex you'll be able to recognize the sensations, and stop before you reach that point.
I also wanted to stress that about 70% of women can't come without direct clitoral stimulation, which intercourse doesn't provide. If you want to last longer so that both of you can enjoy the pleasure longer, that's fantastic. But if your real goal is to make her come from intercourse alone, it might not ever happen - no matter how long you last.
Good luck!
Thanks for the info. I find it quite interesting what different meds can be used for. I appreciate your response.
Yes, it was prescribed to me for that reason. Most docs will prescribe SSRI's for PE, it's a well established solution. Paxil, Zoloft, etc all work too, Dapoxetine will be released hopefully next year which does the same thing as SSRI's but without affecting mood.
You should know that Prozac is a prescription medication, and is used to treat depression and other mental disorders. One of the biggest side effects is a risk of sexual dysfunction (I would assume this is why it is "helpful" in prolonging ejaculation????) You would need to go to a doc to receive this medication.
ChicShane..did your doc prescribe this for you? For this reason?
ChicShane..did your doc prescribe this for you? For this reason?
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