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I am getting so depressed after my m/c it's been almost 4 weeks and I just want my baby back.. I try to be ok and not cry. I get so upset when I see a pregnant womon or a new baby we where so excited about having a baby I can remember how fast my heart was beating when I seen the test and it said pregnant I was crying so much because I was so happy my boyfriend was crying to he was nothing more then to be a daddy I feel worthless it took almost 2 years to get pg and now I lost it. I feel like Im not doing my part as a woman. I just want to het over this and be pg again.
just had the d&c. mine was a bit complicated cos not even at hospital i saw blood or any signs of miscarriage. they inserted a kind of pill so my uterus will open. after 6 hours in pain nothing happened. i was so tired. then they decided to do the D&C. i cried all day and all night but after the d&c i kind of felt relieved. hard to say that cos i know i lost the baby, but i was in too much pain and i knew the baby was not alive. now the pain is gone and im feeling the loss but im telling myself that i have to get better. they told me not to try for a baby now..i have to wait 2 months. im trying to stick to it cos i dont want to pass from the physical pain and most of all the emotional pain im going through. a nurse told me..'we think that we're very clever and know everything...but nature knows a lot more than us...nature didnt want you to proceed with your preg cos something was wrong and the baby would have suffered if he/she was born'. that kind of rested my mind that it wasnt my fault, even though i know i did everything right and was very careful the second i knew i was pregnant. i now know how hard it is to pass from a m/s. i just wish that everyone whos passing this moment will have the courage and support they need. its hard but we all have to look forward. at least when something like this happen with all the pain we go through we all know that we can get pregnant and one day soon we ll have a little angel in our hands...just leave everything in the hands of God... xxx tnks for all the support i found in this forum.
I have had two d&c's one in december 2009 and the other last week. Because I am a nurse and have cared for women going through incomplete abortion, i knew that if it ever came to it, I would want a d&c. Both times I had no complications and things went ok. I didnt feel worse emotionally because i knew that since medically i was cared for, I could concentrate on healing faster.
Yes I'm very scared to.. And when do you go in for your d&c?? I'll pray for you. Just take care of your self. I'm still taking my prenat vita. So if I do get pregnant again right away it will be good. Get lots of rest I think I stated in bed for 4 days... If you need to talk after I'll be here for you.
lets just hope we ll be feeling ok in no time and can start trying for a baby again...im so scared but all i can do now is leave everything in God's hand.
Thank you for your comments.. But good thing I'm not to the point to where I need to take any pills for my depression. I know it happens and as I talk about it more to some girls it happen to them to. As to FAIRY77 I did not get a d&c so I don't know how your going to be after that. But after I did pass the baby I was so heartbroken because it was so real. I guess deep down I wanted it to be a lie and it would be ok. I thank about it all the time and try to be ok thinking I'm still only 24 and still have alit of time. I'm still so scared to get pregnant again I don't want it to happen again it was so hard this time. I really get upset when I go back home for family dinners I don't get to see my family that much but it's even more hard to go because my nephews girlfriend is pregnant and was only 2 weeks ahead of me so when they talk about it I get more upset like last time they are going to the dr on the 9th to find out the sex of the baby and I think in 2 weeks I could have found out.. Anyways thank you for wirghting me it's nice to talk to people that know how I feel.and the best of luck to all of us..
im in your same situation...last week i had a feeling something is wrong..i went for an u/s and they didnt hear the baby's heartbeat. i was so shocked and mentally shattered! im 32 yrs it was my first baby and me and my bf were soooo excited. im not feeling any pain or seen any blood. i still feel very preg. im waiting for monday to be admitted for a d&c. im so scared and depressed since i dont know what to expect! i feel hurt when i see someone pregnant :( people are telling me that i m going to feel worse once i have the d&c and im soooo scared cos i cant feel worse than im feeling now. i was 3 months into the pregnancy and i too felt very connected to my baby.
first off im sorry for your loss. i know exactly how you feel. i m/c feb. 5th at 15weeks and i felt the exact same way you do. i mean women have babies-thats what we do. but wen i wasnt able to i felt so responsible because my body didnt fullfil the pregnancy. to see the hurt and disappoint in my husbands face-it felt like it was all my fault-i had failed him, myself, my MIL, my whole family. but in time i realized it wasnt anything i did or didnt do. unfortnately these things happen. they are more common then you think-its jus hard hitting and oh so real wen it happens to you. to this day i still count the weeks as if im still pregnant(imagining what my belly would look like) and evny ladies who have uneventful normal pregnancies. it also took me 2yrs to conceieve so once the m/c took place it was so dishearten to have to start over from point A. but im tryn to keep telling myself be thankful. be thankful what u have and try not to dwell on what u dont have. be glad you have all your parts and you can try again. imagine the women who doesnt have the parts to even be able to try again and will never have the oppurtunity to be a bio mother. im not saying dont allow yourself to feel how you feel. if you need to cry, scream or whatever you need to-do that and keep it moving. all i can say is take care of yourself. be in the best shape physically and mentally so you are ready for the next pregnancy. good luck with everything and try not to be too hard on yourself.
I just want to say that i am so sorry for your loss, and everything you are feeling is normal. If you continue to be depressed it wont hurt to ask your dr for some zoloft, it helps. I had a missed m/c in june of 08 and that was one of the worst things that evvery happened in my life, i was not prepared for that. i was 13 weeks but i felt such a conection to the baby. I even had a burial service which gave me some closure. BUT i was so consumed in getting preggo again that 8 months of my life went by and i got nothing accomplished, i am grateful for my daughter( i got preggo 8months aft er the m/c) but i wish that i didnt consume myself with ttc for 8 months, what ever you decide to do is your choice, take time to greive, dont beat yourself up, continue to have active sex with your BF and it will happen sooner or later. Good luck and again i am sorry for your loss
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