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Down in the Dumps
My husband and I just started to TTC again yesterday and I have been so irritable lately....I'm surprised he even wants to sleep with me. I don't know if it is the weather, the fact that we are officially starting over after being pregnant for so long, or nervousness that it might take us 9 months to conceive again, or that we will have another miscarriage, or what?? I have just been so sad lately and I don't know why. I would have been about 24 weeks along now and it just kills me that we are starting all over...I have grieved and have been getting back to normal, but ever since my first period arrived I have just been awful to be around. We started this process last December 2008 and I feel like starting all over it taking every ounce of strength I have. Sorry there is no real question with this post...I just wonder if all this is normal, and are my feelings going to get better or worse??!!
This souds normal too me, I would hae been 20 weeks pregnant this saturday but i had my miscarriage in november at 9 half weeks. My first period came on xmas day, it was kind of a sigh of relief that i got back to norm pretty quick but also a reminder of the miscarriage, last month we started trying again but not preg yet, this is my 2nd month of trying and im hoping it wont take long to conceive again but i was eactly like you, very irritable and so sad all the time. I have managed to get some strength from somewhere inside me to try to conceive again. Its very hard but you will feel better as the days go by. but you will never forget, still have off days. bt i really am desperate to be pregnant again!! xx
I'm so sorry for your loss :( I know it's hard and TTC is very scary after a miscarriage (trust me!) I would have been 20 wks 5 days today, with a belly sticking out! My husband was a little scared to TTC right away, he was afraid the hormones left over from the miscarriage were driving me crazy. I know I've been crazy, We TTC after my first normal cycle (in Jan). I monitored my fertility by using the trackers on here, and last week we found out we were pregnant again! I'm scared to death and worried that something else will go wrong again. I hate the fact that I'm pregnant and I don't have a belly to show for it yet (because I know I would have by now if I was still pregnant).
When I had my first period, I was scared and excited. It meant that we could start again, and that scared me. I was scared at what would happen if i wasn't pregnant by the time my due date came around, etc. After a week it calmed down. Then when I knew I was ovulating I got even more scared, but after talking to my husband and hearing him say that he wants me to be pregnant again just made me feel 100% better. Then when I got the BFP, OMG, I started to freak out (worse than before). I'm scared that every little thing I do could cause a miscarriage again (although deep down I know it's not the case). I still haven't had my dr's apt yet (it's on the 10th). I've basically been spending the time reading up on news and when I'm home I've been "nesting" to keep my mind off of things.
So, yes, it is totally normal! And no it won't go away, and it might get worse, BUT the most important thing is to find a dr you trust to help keep you calm. A supportive husband to put up with you and tell you everything's going to be ok.
Also, know that you got pregnant once, it will happen again. And if this was your first then your chances of having another is exactly the same as it was before you had your miscarriage. Most miscarriages can't be "fixed", they just happen. A friend once told me that at some point in there lives every women will have a miscarriage, even if they don't know they had one.
If you take nothing else away from what I've said, at least take away the fact that I have become so much stronger, AND I've gotten pregnant again, and so will you!
Let me know if you want to talk ever, I hope you start to feel better about it all soon! Good luck with TTC!
Sprinkling some baby dust for luck!
When I had my first period, I was scared and excited. It meant that we could start again, and that scared me. I was scared at what would happen if i wasn't pregnant by the time my due date came around, etc. After a week it calmed down. Then when I knew I was ovulating I got even more scared, but after talking to my husband and hearing him say that he wants me to be pregnant again just made me feel 100% better. Then when I got the BFP, OMG, I started to freak out (worse than before). I'm scared that every little thing I do could cause a miscarriage again (although deep down I know it's not the case). I still haven't had my dr's apt yet (it's on the 10th). I've basically been spending the time reading up on news and when I'm home I've been "nesting" to keep my mind off of things.
So, yes, it is totally normal! And no it won't go away, and it might get worse, BUT the most important thing is to find a dr you trust to help keep you calm. A supportive husband to put up with you and tell you everything's going to be ok.
Also, know that you got pregnant once, it will happen again. And if this was your first then your chances of having another is exactly the same as it was before you had your miscarriage. Most miscarriages can't be "fixed", they just happen. A friend once told me that at some point in there lives every women will have a miscarriage, even if they don't know they had one.
If you take nothing else away from what I've said, at least take away the fact that I have become so much stronger, AND I've gotten pregnant again, and so will you!
Let me know if you want to talk ever, I hope you start to feel better about it all soon! Good luck with TTC!
Sprinkling some baby dust for luck!
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