Diagnosed Blighted Ovum at 7.4 weeks

[LisaRG]

Hello,
I am an active member on the 35+pregnancy forum.  I am 45 and was excited to get a BFP on March 16th.
  I had my HCG levels checked 2 times and the Dr office told me they were very good at 6 weeks 6 day.  At 7 weeks 4 days I had an ultasound and they only found a gestational sack measuring correctly for that time.    They told me there was no chance there was a viable pregnancy, embryo was probably reabsorbed long ago.  
I am very sad, but I was lucky to get pregnant at all at my age and since I gave birth to a healthy DD at 41, I try to be thankful for that.
It is now almost 6 days since then and I still have not M/C.  No spotting, no cramping, very sore breasts, tired bloated, as before only now I am not taking the progesterone so I thought some pregnancy symptoms would subside.
I refused the Abortion pill and insisted on a u/s at 9 weeks 4 day to confirm empty sack if nothing has happend at that point, but the waiting is awful.  My Doctor is very negative and I know she thinks I am probably pathetic for not just getting it over with, but I just cant.  Not now.
Anyone else go through this?  How long will it take my body to realise the sack is empty?  
Thanks so much,
Lisa

[smr08]

Oh Lisa, I'm so sorry that your going through all of this. I think that you are doing the right thing. Please know that if you ever need to talk I'm here. I also wish this place was around when I had my first m/c in 1995, I felt so alone. The women here are fantastic and have helped me so much since I lost my son. My prayers are with you, please let me know how everything goes.

                   (((HUGS)))   Lori

[mandy38]

Well I found out at a 20 wk scan that my baby had died at 16 wks, so I have no idea when/ if I would have gone into labour... the first thing I knew something was wrong was some very slight bleeding, that was it.  I think your brave to wait, because when I found out I just wanted the labour starting, but you never know at least if you give it a little longer you then know this pregnancy definately wasn't to be and there will be no what if's.  Hope you get the answers you need!!

[guinness413]

where in NJ are you? I had a crappy dr in NJ too who was cold and could be wrong?

[kellym]

Oh Lisa, I didn't know. I am so very sorry.

[LisaRG]

Thank you all for your thoughts and support.
Everyday is a struggle, but I am trying to keep busy.  It snowed here in New Jersey on April 8th, that was one day after my u/s - so I asked God, "if you can create snow in April, then maybe you can create a miracle in my womb as well"  
This will be my 3rd m/c since my DD.  I understand how you all feel.  I wish this forum had been here when I had my 1st m/c - that was the hardest one to get through.  We saw a heartbeat at 7 weeks and my dh and I were so excited.  After the loss I had no one to talk to - NOBODY talks about m/c.
If anyone needs my support, I am here for you as well.
LisaRG

[etts]

Lisa,

Please do not take the abortion pill, maybe its too early to show a bean inside, sometimes its happening. Just wait for another 2 weeks and have a sonogram again. You are not experiencing bleeding and cramps so its a good sign. Don't mind this silly doctor of yours. Stay positive, I will include you in our prayer meeting tonight. Keep up posted.RELAX!

Love,
Etts

[tinkerbell101]

Lisa,

I am so so sorry you are going through this.

I was just going to drop by and see how you were doing as you had been in my thoughts. I was really sad to read your post.  

I had the same thing happen to me the first time I had a M/C. My sac was dated at 6wks 3days but it was empty. I had bloods taken and was asked to go back 1 week later. 7 days later I still hadn't passed the baby so was re-scanned and as there was no change I had a D&C as just needed closure.

I know how horrible the waiting is - I was so sad and confused but had been told that some women in my situation had been known to go back after 7 days only to be told they were still pregnant, and I still felt pregnant but didn't want to get my hopes up. I am struggling to find the right words for you, I know you need comfort, reasurrance, guidance right now.... and I feel helpless because I don't have anything concrete I can add, I just want you to know I am feeling for you and I wish I could jump through the screen and give you a big hug. You are in my thoughts and I will keep you in my prayers

Debs xx

[ArmyPrincess819]

Lisa- Again I'm sorry I couldn't be more helpful but I'm always here. Make sure to keep me updated. Take care of yourself and I will be crossing my fingers for you!

AP/Jenny

[LisaRG]

Thank you so much. I am so grateful for your support.
I will keep you posted.
Lisa

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm sorry Lisa for everything you are going through. No I haven't experienced waiting for a m/c to happen. I have had 6 5 natural and 1 resulted in a d and e and then a d and c. I have had to play the waiting game in terms of seeing if my numbers went up etc. I think it's a good choice you made to get your u/s at 9 wks. Sometimes the dates are off of for whatever reason the baby just doesn't want to be seen. I have heard so many women in your shoes and some the out come is good and others it's bad. I truly hope yours works out for the best. I will be thinking about you and crossing my fingers for you. I hope someone else on here will read your story and maybe be of more help. I can only send positive vibes and be a support system for you and share my experiences. I think in reading your dr is negative it's time to find someone who has alittle more understanding. I would maybe even get a 2nd opinion. Best wishes to you and let me know what happens. For now just try to ease your mind maybe get a massage or do something for yourself that can help just relax you. I'm here if you need to talk....Good luck.

AP/ Jenny
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