Just looking for some advice
I had a misscarrage last week and a dnc on 30/10/10 less than a week ago I'm still really upset and i really want to try again straight away. The dr told me to wait until after my 1st period but i really do not want to wait and I've read that it is easier to get pregnant before your 1st period. I just want to move on and i want that feeling back of knowing you have your baby growing inside me but I'm terrified i will miscarry again but i feel i really can't wait has anyone got any experiece of this will it end i'n disaster or is it safe. I don't want to increase my risk but i'f it is safe i really want to try now I'm so confused with it all i really wanted this baby and it's breaking my heart to know that it ended so sadly any advice would be much appreciated thank you
I am so sorry for your loss. I will be as honest as I can and let you know what I experienced so that you can weigh up your options.
When I was 14 weeks pregnant I started spotting one day and the next night my baby boy was born sleeping. My miscarriage was as natural as you could get. I spotted pink then brown and then the next day it was red, gushing my waters broke and I saw my little man in my pants - very sad and difficult to get over :)
I miscarried on the 13th april this year. I too felt as though I just wanted to be pregnant again and couldn't wait to fall pregnant again. I bled and spotted for a total of 3 weeks. When I knew I was ovulating my hubby and I had sex a few days before ovulation once and didn't fall pregnant. I was a bit upset but glad all the same. The month after my miscarriage I was an absolute mess as I am sure you can understand. Every time my hubby and I had intercourse I would cry - that lasted about 6 weeks.
My hubby and I decided to try again after one period. My hubby and I were having a few communcation problems but decided to have intercourse around ovulation. I did fall pregnant that month and am now 24 weeks pregnant.
I will say the first few weeks of my pregnancy were VERY difficult. I had panic attacks for about 3-4 days continuosly and whenever I had scans I tried to mentally prepare myself that my baby wasn't alive (morbid I know) but because my son's miscarriage was so out of the blue I didn't want to be caught out so I needed to be emotionally ready incase the worse happened.
I didn't relax until I was 16 weeks pregnant because that was the first time I heard my baby's heartbeat.
The advice I give every women is that if you are mentally prepared for another miscarriage then go ahead and try again but if you would fall apart if you were to miscarry again then I think you should wait and reasses your emotions the next month.
Good luck and please take care and put yourself first :)
I definitely remember the feeling of dying to be pregnant again... I am still in that phase.. I had a d&c August 23... I feel emotionally I handled it very well.. It was devestating and I cried quite a bit randomly for weeks... My doctor told me to wait 3 cycles and my husband and i decided to wait 2 so that my body could heal. Getting my first period after the d&c helped alot with the coping aspect. It was like a sign that I was moving on and that my body was functioning. Im waiting for my 2nd period now so that I can start TTC again.
I have read alot of success stories about natural miscarriages getting pregnant asap before a period and carrying to term.. But I dont see as many d&c ones (dont see negative ones either)... I guess alot less people get d&c for good reasons.
I think the most important part is if you are emotionally ready. It always feels taht getting pregnant again will make all the bad feelings go away but at the same time, it brings up alot of new anxieties and emotions. Miscarriage is a serious possibility in every pregnancy so make sure you are equiped to deal with another one if it does occur.. I hope you never have to go through it again.
There is an article that one of the doctors here wrote on the sidebar usually about When to try to conceive after a miscarriage. It says that doctors usually recommend you wait when you get a d&c because there are some risks that are sometimes not associated with a natural miscarriage always.. I would read it and see how you feel. It can take a bit longer after a d&c for your body to adjust back to normal.
Wish you the best of luck in your future TTC efforts!
i've never had a DNC but i have had one miscarried and two pre mature births (my son died the same day he was born and my daughter was still born) and i totally understand wanting to get pregnant again right away because you want a baby so bad. but, at the same time, it's important to give yourself some time to heal, physically and emotionally. i have also heard that after a DNC you have to give yourself a little more time to heal. I would wait if I were you, just the one cycle. I know it probably seems like forever but the month will go by before you know it and the pain won't be as fresh. I am sorry for your loss and good luck!
I had my DandC 21 Of October..I am feeling the same as you and I know how much you want TTC..My doctor said TTC when we feel ready..Just now I am starting to feel as a women again...I am still havent any bleeding post my DandC...So first I would like to have my first period to see how I gonna feel and then TTC..
It was my first miscarriage, it was shock for us...We cant change anythging now...Just to look foward to better futher...
As you read here all womens are different and had very different experiences so I think that where is no answer its safe or its not safe...listen your body, heart and see how you feel...we will have our Angels when its gonna be right time for us..(better soon)..take care!!
I have a very similar story... got pregnant this past July, but miscarried around 7 weeks, decided to do medical miscarriage (vaginal Misoprostal pills) at home on Oct 2. This was my second m/c so I had mentally prepared myself for another failure prior to conceiving, and have to say that this m/c was hard but nothing compared to the first (innocent and pure) pregnancy loss that we experienced. It took about 9 months to get back into the TTC game after our first m/c last year, and even then we were very fragile.
After this second m/c last month, my doctor recommended I wait 1-2 cycles before TTC. I had also read that the first cycle off of a m/c your body is prepared to get pregnant (don't know the truth behind this) but we considering whether to start now or later.
I think what rccresswell is right on, it all depends on how you would deal with another m/c. You need to mentally be ready for that possibility. Good luck with your choice!
I'm currently going through getting pregnant after a miscarriage. I never had a period or anything. This pregnancy has went well so far I'm 11 wks and hoping I can breath a little after 12wks. I know chances of a miscarriage drop dramaticlly after that. But I have to say I have been so scared the entire time and normal pregnancy issues scare you and you wonder if your getting ready to miscarry. Everytime i have gas or any of that fun stuff I almost go into a panic. Hopefully and personally I think my baby might make it. You have to decide if you can emotionally handel it. I think thats themost important thing. I coulnt wait either but didn't expect to be so scared all the time although i knew i could easilly loose this baby also...I hope this helps you and goodluck....If you want I can update you and let you know how it's going
Please help. I misscarraged on the 8/10/2013 once I stopped bleeding we had unprotected sex and have continued to since. I have come down with a cold so have been feeling very off it this week n just gone back to work.
I noticed 3 days ago that I feel sick now and again through out the day. Also noticed I am getting head Aches and back pain. Slight pinching n cramping low down. Is this due to my misscarrage or could something of gone worng? I have done a test since and it came back negative so am not showing as pregnant. Could there be a poss that I ovulated again n become pregnant? Some many questions and fears. Please help someone?? Toni xx
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