HELP PLEASE, 7-8WEEK NO HEARTBEAT !? WATS GOIN ON??

[TawnyTaylor92]

Hi, well when i first did the pregnancy test that confirmed i where pregnant, i added the dates up and it said 9-10weeks gone, after visiting the midwife, ect.. i started having quite strong pains (not like period pains) .. so i took my self to the hospital, (better to be safe than sorry) .. i had a scan with the vaginal wand.. she was confused about the dates i'd told her because the scan showed i'm only 6weeks, she looked around my womb for 5-10mins and couldn't discover a heartbeat.. she asked me to come back a week later. i returned on friday 4th feb, another scan with the vaginal wand.. after only a few seconds of her inserting it, she said '' it doesn't look good '' , she said the sack has grown but the fetal hasn't and still there was no heartbeat, the nurse handed me a '' missed miscarriage '' booklet , at this point i'm thinking ( she obviously thinks it's dead ), she offered me 2 options, i can come back in a week and try again, or have an operation as my body has not physically removed the (miscarridge) itself. Not wanting to believe it's dead, i took the option of coming back on friday 11th feb. I have no pains, Normal coloured Discharge, and no bleeding what so ever. Me and my partner hope its a miricle baby, but i dont want to get my hopes up, to be even more distraught on friday. I'm scared about accepting the operation, because i keep thinking i haven't given the baby time to grow, but i know i can't keep waiting week after week for something that isn't coming. I have thought of something which i think may have happened, i think my dates i calculated where correct, i think i may actually be 9-10weeks, but maybe the baby died at 6 weeks and hasn't grown since? , please can somebody give me advice.

thanks x

[TawnyTaylor92]

thankyou for your advice i will definatly keep myself healthy from now onwards, once my insides have healed and we're ready to try again, as soon as i feel a sign of pregnancy i'm going to rest alot and not lift heavy things and take it easy like the doc said, i did quit smoking but after the bad news i thought what the hell and started again but i have sort of got my self on track and although i feel heartache i've cleared my head and convinced my self maybe it was suppose to happen for a reason, i am in the process of quitting smoking i quit afew days ago now, and i'm going to make sure i'm healthy as i can be for if i do fall pregnant again, well on the thursday 10th, late thursday night, i started bleeding heavily, so i went to hospital, and had a scan done straight away, and there where no sign of heartbeat or anything, but the doc said the blood is a sign of the baby coming away, the start of a miscarriage, so i had to stay in over night and had a DNC friday afternoon, the nurses where great and really helpfull, they cheered me up and where really friendly! if it wasn't for the support of the women on here and the nurses who helped, i dont think i would have got through it as well as i have done,
thankyou all so much, and i just hope that all these women who have gone through a miscarriage, never have to go through it again, and i hope we all have a healthy pregnancy n the future, all these women are in my prayers and i just hope for them that they finally get their bundle of joy that they deserve, x x

[CarlaLP]

I am very sorry for what you are going through but it does sound like a missed miscarriage which just means that the embryo has passed but your body has not recognized it and has not started a natural miscarriage. A heartbeat would be present by 6 weeks and a strong heartheat would definitley be present by 9 or 10 weeks. I would think about moving on as you don't want to cause any harm to yourself by not dealing with this in a timely manner.

I know that this is horrible- I know how you feel, but please look to the future and keeping yourself as healthy as can be.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.