Help!!!

[june11]

I had a m/c last week and I was doing ok until now.....I suddenly started to feel distant,helpless,unworthy toward my family....I have two other children and I just can't seem to get close to them or my husband....I feel like I am losing it......WHAT CAN I DO ????

[krichar]

I am so sorry for your loss. Just ride it out...you need your time to grieve. I posted a wonderful acclamation in the miscarriage forum that has given me some light if you would like to read it...I will copy it here for you

A Mother's Prayer/ Affirmation After Miscarriage



In this time of loss I call upon my spirit within to guide me to my strength so that I may find peace and completion.

I will use this strength to demand of myself and others my need to grieve completely, for this will be my first step to healing.

During my time of grief I will seek guidance not only from my inner spirit but from loving persons who may offer wisdom and comfort.

I need to understand that the soul as well as the physical body needs healing and to pay attentio to this. I will learn to accept that the soul may never heal completely.

I will learn to live not in fear and once again see beauty in my world and purpose in my existence.

In spite of my new knowledge that things happen that cannot be controlled, I must call upon the places within me that tell me I do have control over much of my life and use this control to aid my healing.

Let me recognize the gift in my ability to conceive and carry life however briefly.

Let me take joy in my ability to love so deeply and desire to nurture a soul unbeknownst to me.

Let me find healing in the belief that this oul knew my love for it and that that love helped it to pass to another place.

Let me honor this short life not only with my love but in finding meaning in its existence.

Let me recognize this meaning in not only my ability to survive, but in my fullest appreciation of all the moments motherhood will bring me, along with my deeper compassion and sisterhood to other women who've experienced loss.

Let a part of this soul be reflected in the spirit of my future children, born or adopted, so that I may know it through them.

I will listen to and trust the place in my deepest heart that tells me I will once again be reunited with this soul and will fulfill the need to hold it in my arms.

I will help myself to feel comfort in the knowledge that there is a star in heaven that belongs to me.

by Stacey Dinner-Levin

[Turtle924]

I feel the same way I had a miscarriage in February 2010 and I thought I was fine but it gets harder for me each day I want another baby so bad I also have 2 children and I am distant and also distant with my boyfriend I feel that the lost was my fault but I have my good days and have my bad days because I am always thinking about the child I lost.  What I did to help is that I try to do things to keep me occupied such as working or doing something relaxing because it's going to take time.  I wish you good luck because I know how you feel because this is my fifth miscarriage and I am going to be 42 and I am just trying for one more baby.

[Collegebeauty22]

Hi, I am 23.  I got pregnant for the first time the end of may 2009. It ended in a miscarriage. I wasn't very far along. I was 5 weeks and 3days. It was very tough for my boyfriend and I. I to got distant. I thought it was my fault and I didn't want to have another child. It hurt me deep withing and I had to understand that it wasn't my fault and that for some reason it wasn't meant for me to have that child. I am now about 29 weeks pregnant with my second child. This pregnancy is also difficult. My water broke about 2 days ago and I am currently in the hospital so that the doctors may prevent me from going into labor to early...It is tough and i am continously wondering if its something I did wrong. It's not though. You should realize that also. It's not your fault. you have 2 other beautiful children at home and when the time is right you might have a third..Good luck and know that your family loves you and they understand you are suffereing a loss. you just need time to deal with it.