struggling to cope

[loz85]

Had a missed miscarriage at 9 weeks baby only measured 7. Really can't get my head together . Seen babies heartbeat at 7 weeks and it was sooo strong.my hearts breaking . It's been just over 4 weeks since ERPC still no period haven't exactly been careful either . Just want to have a cycle so I can start to try n conceive again. This waiting games a total nightmare.

[loz85]

U sound so strong. That's a gd thing that ur continuing to try. Wish u all the luck . I'm just coming up to my 27th birthday . Thats what midwife said there's no reason it'll happen again many women only have 1 n then go on to having healthy babies. I hope next time for u its a gd egg. :)  

[stacey10]

well as I wrote that I was going thru my third, I still am I suppose, just waiting for the bleeding to stop now so we can try again, my ones are due to egg issues (age) so I am expecting more, when I started trying I new in my head that this would be the way things would turn out and for me this is a decision I've made to try again so I have to be prepared.. On the other hand with you, if you in that good : child bearing:  :  age there really isnt any reason why this should happen to you again :) it may do but you need to realise that it is natures way of releasing something that wasnt quite right (in majority of cases), when you get pregnant there is always risks involved, and the next time your ready to try I hope you sail thru your pregnancy and have a healthy bub :) no you wont forget, but when your holding your new baby time will heal and  I firmly believe that, good luck :)

[loz85]

Stacey10 ur right it's better it happened when it did my mum keeps telling me the same. I got the tissue tested so gotta wait to c if anything shows Up to give me a reason. Il never forget it n feel down I doubt Il ever get over it. I'm just hoping n praying for my next time

[loz85]

So sorry to hear that. Hope ur doing ok. This was my very first and I'm terrified it'll happen again. Ur very brave having to go through this 3 times and again just now. Ur story this time is exactly like mine. Wish u all the best for the future. I keep telling my self my time will come and so will urs

[lindsaylou81]

im sorry to hear about ur loss,i know exactly how u feel,im in the middle of a miscarriage now i would of been 10 weeks,iwent for a scan at 7 weeks as i was spotting i was concerned cause i had 3 miscarriages in the past..on the scan it showed the baby's heartbeat and i was relieved that everything was ok,i was still spotting for a couple of weeks more,then i had my first appointment with midwife last thursday still spotting and that night the bleeding got heavier and over the weekend to,by monday was in a bit of pain,so i got my midwife to request a scan for that day,my husband came with me,i was waiting for the sonographer to say im so sorry which she did.i was expecting the worse,but seeing the baby's heartbeating a couple of weeks before i thought everything was ok baby must of died just after that,i have passed some but think i might have to have a d @ c,got to go back friday for another scan...i hope everything goes ok for u next time and gd luck

[stacey10]

it can be really devistating when you experience a miscarriage, especially when you think everything is going along ok, I alsways take heart in the fact that when it happens early on in the pregnancy, its usually because there is something wrong somewhere which stops the baby from progressing any further, and for me I always say thank goodness it happened now and not later on, its really hard but if you try and  look at it like this it does make it abit easier to get your head around it

[loz85]

Thanks its gd to hear from others who have went through all this. I took my period today so that was just under 5 weeks. So can now hopefully get bk on track and try for my next little 1. Been told I can start trying again straight after this cycle I keep telling my self it'll happen when its meant too .

[Scout8601]

i'm so so sorry for your loss.  M/c's are so devestating, especially once you see that heartbeat.  And yes, afterwards, the waiting is horrible.   My first m/c  was a missed m/c and I had to have a D&C and I'm thinking it took about 6 weeks to get my first period afterwards (it's been a few years back so I'm giving you my best guess).  Again, really sorry for your loss and hope you don't have to wait much longer to get back to trying.