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[shellietiny]

hi i had a missed miscarriage 2 and half weeks ago. still feeling very sad and empty with no interest in anything also cannot face going back to work. was wondering if any one else had the same feelings at this stage.

[shellietiny]

thank you so much everyone for your most helpful replys they really help. My hubby and i planted a tree last night and called the baby Robin i feel like i have something now to rememember baby robin by. Im Going back to work monday dreading it coz i work on the ward that i was admitted to for my erpc. My husband is really good to me but sometimes i get really angry with him over silly things i forget he's hurting to as it was our 1st pregnacy.

[rccresswell]

The early days are always the hardest.  I had a counsellor call me a few times after my miscarriage to see how I was holding up.  The one thing I learnt was not to put pressure on yourself to move on.  

When I lost my son I isolated myself and I would have panic attacks at the thought of leaving the house.  I would cry after bding with my husband for about 8 weeks after my miscarriage and I would just cry for no reason.

All of the emotions are normal and do not try to fast track them because it makes it harder.  I do know when I was expecting my first af after my miscarriage I was in two worlds.  I was relieved because it meant my body was healing physically but I was a wreck because it meant my baby was realy gone.

I tried several different things to heal the pain.  My hubby and I asked to get our son back so we could bury him.  We got him back 29 days after my miscarriage due to policy.  Have you tried planting a plant in memory of your baby?  I have a cross stich with my son's name hanging in my room (my mother in law made them for my other two children and I asked her if she could finish it as much as it hurt her to do so she did it for me)  I wrote in a journal about my experience and my husband would read it so he knew how I was feeling.  My husband and I also have a song that remind us of our son.

It is very hard to overcome and the pain never goes away but though time you find better ways to help deal with it.  If you ever need someone to talk to or you need someone to just listen feel free to message me.  Take Care

[pb95]

I had my miscarriage 4 weeks ago now and haven't been back to work as I'm off for the summer because of my job.  I'm kind of dreading going back because I'll have had 2 months to heal and then all the feelings will come back again by seeing my colleagues again. Sometimes I almost wish I could just get it overwith sooner but other times I would just rather not see anyone indefinitely.  It will be crappy when it happens but then it will be done and I'll have a little more closure.  I do know that in as many ways as possible I try to distract myself because if I didn't keep busy I would think about it all the time.  I hope things are better for you soon.

[Gracie0717]

I felt that way too. I have my d&c two months ago. For almost a month after the m/c (my first pregnancy) I have been crying on and off. Sometimes rushing to the toilet in the office to cry and sometimes cried in the shower. I do not feel like seeing friends or strangers too after Even now, two months later, I still grieve for my lost little one. Do not be afraid to feel sad or grieve. Talk to us if you need to. Whatever you are feeling now is normal and completely understandable.

Grace

[prettygirl87]

Yes I know EXACTLY how you feel and it's ok to feel this way I also had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks my baby stopped growing at 8 weeks and 3 days writing in a journal and talking about it helped me a lot and trust me with time it does get better take YOUR time grieving if you need anything my story, encouraging words or just someone to talk to I'm here I hope you start to feel better soon

[nadagirl]

yes i did ! i had one 4weeks ago at 14 weeks. i no what your goin thru. your gona have to be strong and try to move on. im still sad about mine and its life and that jus it go`s i guess.

[mjmom69]

I'm so sorry. I know exactly how you feel. I lost my little one in may at what I thought was 11w, the baby had passed at about 7w. I know it is hard. Work was the hardest. I cried alot. I had to go though and eventually, it got better. It seems like you will never feel right again, but gradually, you will. Talk to friends or your husband or even us! This site is a great support and has helped me so much. You just have to take it one day at a time and let yourself feel however you want to and don't let anyone make you feel like you should be over it. You have to feel it to get thru it. It will happen. You will never forget your little one but it will get easier. Let me know if I can help with anything.