not sure whats going on

[aowens]

hello
   I miscarried April 13th 2010 at 6 weeks and 4 days....My husband and I are trying again to concieve....Problem being I dont know when I should ovulate or if my cycle will be normal like before...Usually I start on the 18th...But everyone I talk to say that I would use April 13th as my first day of my lmp??? if that is the case then I should start today May 10th.....I havent yet but I have had cramps for a few days now and my breasts are sore...Im extremely moody, tired and hungry all the time...I dont know if this is a sign of pregnancy or if I am just getting ready to start...I took a pregnancy test on Saturday and it was negative but i think it would be too early to show??? Any advice would be greatly apprecitated...

[aowens]

hahahhaha yes it is .....I started again this morning....and now its gone gone again...lol I have never really kept track of everythingl...so i was going to count 14 days and start then....what other signs are there of ovulation?? lol like i said i have never really paid attention to it all.....need some help lol

[rccresswell]

Hahahaha your body is having a good old time playing with you.  I don't know why it has stopped but I'm sure it happens.  It is probably just the start of a new cycle.  Keep an eye on your cm over the next week or so and start counting down to ovulation time. It's good that you have a time to start calculating from.  I am still waiting for my af :(.  Will keep you posted!!!

[aowens]

Ok now im confused again....got my period on Thursday the 13th...bled REALLY heavy thurs, friday and this morning...now all of a sudden its gone?????

[aowens]

Good Morning.....I put a call into my doctor he is trying to get me in to check my levels....will let you know what happens....hope your having a great day

[rccresswell]

Hey

That's  a good idea.  You will have to let me know what your results are.  I took a hpt last week and it came back negative and today they are2.  I am so glad that it's done so now I can get my af and get my life back on track!!!!  Good luck with tomorrow.

[aowens]

Carla
   thank you so very much,.....I am calling my doctor first thing in the morning....i was thinking that since hpt where showing negative that would mean my levels were down...but im gonna get the doctor to tell me for sure...so maybe i can stop driving myself crazy...

I am soooo thankful to have found you on this site....

[rccresswell]

Hey

I just got my results back and they are at 2.  It has taken 4 weeks and 2 days but they are close to done.  Looking forward to getting my body back on track so when we start trying again I will be 100%
Hope that helps

[rccresswell]

You could always go and request an hcg quantitive blood test.  I did it yesterday and get my results today.  That will tell you if your levels have gone down to 0 or it could tell you if you are pregnant.  I haven't had any follow up blood tests so that is why I decided to do it.  

I know once they have gone to 0 then the miscarriage is out of your system.  I just told the doctor I wanted an hcg test to make sure everything is out of my system and they were happy to do it.

Talk soon and I will let you know what my results are.  I did see another women on here have a miscarriage a day before and after and she just found out she was pregnant.

Good luck

[aowens]

Ok....I found out to track my cycles I use the first day of my miscarriage when i started bleeding....if i do that im an on day 28 of my cycle and should have started today....I DID NOT only cramping.....I think the best thing to do so i dont worry myself into a frenzy is just wait....Im going to just assume that i could be pregnant and not do anything that could harm me or the baby...until i know other wise....I will test again at the end of the month if still no AF.....some one please tell me if I am handling this the right way

[aowens]

Hi Carla
Yes it is nice to have someone to talk to....that actually knows what I was going through on that exact day although it was different :)

I also thought the ultrasound could have made it happen but my doctor says no....but I cant help but think that maybe I was just having that "normal" spotting at 6 weeks and the tech made so much worse because she was pushing with such force....but in the same sense since I believe that it is almost comforting to know that maybe when i get pregnant again all will be ok...

I took another hpt this morning it is negative so i guess my body is just preparing for my cycle to start....I am just very impatient and I want to either be pregnant again or atleast have a starting point to which i know I can start trying again....

[rccresswell]

Hey
I missed your last message.  It is so nice to have someone going through the same thing on the same day your miscarriage happened.  Although all women are different it just makes it a bit easier  to see if you are having the same symptoms.

I miscarried at 14 weeks.  I went from pink discharge on Monday the 12th, it didn't get worse or better.  On Tuesday the 13th, it had stopped and at about 10am I saw brown blood.  I went straight to the doctor who ordered bed rest.  At 4pm I had red blood went back to the doctor who referred me to hospital.  We got to hopsital at 5pm and there was only a bit of blood, 6pm it was gushing, I changed 6 pads in an hour walking back an forth to the toilet every 5--10 minutes in a packed waiting room - very degrading.  At 7pm they got me a room.  At 9pm my waters broke and out came my son and placenta.  It was very scary and a hard thing to go through.

I also have 2 healthy children.  I went for a scan at 7 weeks 4 days and he was fine with a healthy hearbeat.  My doctor said I would have a 5% chance of miscarrying at our 13 week check up after having no symptoms of miscarrying, seeing a heartbeat and throwing up 3 times during the first trimester.For some strange reason I always thought there ws something wrong and that is why I kept going to the doctor.

I think miscarriages are traumatic no matter what stage you are at.  We already had my son's name picked out and everything, his name was Ethan.

From reading your message could the ultrasound have caused the miscarriage.  It seemed like your baby was fine until then.  I had thrush during the first 3 months and I was told not to put the applicator in incase I accidently dislodged the plug covering the cervix.  Could that have caused you to bleed heavilly?

I know I ovulated around the 2nd May.  I had cm that was similar to raw egg and I was very into my husband lol.  I have had cramping ever since then so for about 12 days.  I am not thinking about a new pregnancy for myself but only time will tell I guess.  When I ovulated I also had tingly breasts.  I only say this because with your symptoms could you be ovulating?  Have you had any cm lately???

Good luck and let us know how you go

Carla

[rccresswell]

Hey

I just wanted to let you know that I am getting my hcg levels back tomorrow so I will let you know how they turn out.  Since we miscarried on the same day hopefully it will give you some indication as to what is happening with you.

Let us know how everything turns out for you
Carla

[aowens]

thank you sarah...I will def test in the morning...just hate seeing the negative....but I know something is going on

[sarah680]

I'm sorry...I meant to say that it's hard to tell when you actually ovulated.  

I definitely think you should retest again by the weekend...if not before.  Good luck!

[aowens]

Hi Carla...
  I have been cramping off and on for 3 days...last night was the worst and I was POSITIVE i would be bleeding this morning when I woke but nothing....they are not unbearable just know that there are there....Its all confusing for me I have 3 healthy children so this miscarriage was a devestating  shock to me...now i dont know if my body is just trying to get back to normal or if I may be pregnant again...If i use April 13 as it was my lpm then I would have ovulated like the 26th...with my 3 fertile days being the 23rd 24th and 25th all 3 of which me and my husband had intercourse...so if I am using the dates there is a good chance I am pregnant...but I just dont know....I wish I would either start or the cramps and sore breasts would go away...the NOT knowing is killing me...


As for my miscarriage...I had my first doctor appt I found out I was pregnant March 20...my first doctors appt was April 5th...I was told I was 6 weeks..the following tuesday i had LIGHT bleeding and was referred to the ER..the bleeding had stopped by the time I saw the doctor they took blood my HCG levels were 2900 good sign they said.....they sent me for an ultrasound that was done trans vaginal because it was so early on...the ultrasound was so very painful the tech actually braced her self on my knee she was pressing so hard...she told me the baby only measured 6 weeks and 4 days but had a heart rate of 144...I started to bleed heavily at this point and was sent home being told there was nothing they could do...I saw my doctor on the following day and was told they could no longer see the baby and that I  had miscarried....This is by far the most heart renching thing I have ever been through....I will not let it stop me from trying again..although I am a little nervous with the cramps I am having...

p.s I didnt have cramps with my miscarriage until weds night...so they didnt start right away

[rccresswell]

Hey aowen
When did your cramping start, like the dull aching?  
Oh yes I am really sorry abour your loss.  How did your miscarriage happen?
Carla

[aowens]

thanks.....if i use the 13th as my date then I should have started today and I didnt...so im thinking if nothing by the weekend I should test again.....?

[sarah680]

You should use April 13th as the best guess date.  But since you miscarried there can  be a LOT of variation.  Your body is having to reregulate so its hard to tell when you actually miscarried.  You should take another test soon using your most concentrated morning urine.  

Until you have a normal cycle it will be very hard to predict your date of ovulation.  

[aowens]

yes i have those cramps...they come and go....and i feel sometimes like i have "started" but when i go to the bathroom nothing....ive only had some light brown spotting...im just not sure when or if i ovulated...do i go by my cycle before I got pregnant or do I use april 13th as the starting point and count from there?