I need somebody to help me

[Nickie28]

Hey I just had my miscarriage 2 days ago and I'm learn and dealing with it better but the baby's father he's not doing so well. He doesn't want to take his phone is off a lot more he and my son where twins I was 19 weeks when I lost my baby so he had a lot fully grown but just could open his eyes yet I sent my babies father a pic of him and my son because I was so amazed at how much they looked alike then after I thought omg why did I do that because he ain't talked to me since I'm scared for him and suggestions

[Nickie28]

I know but its hard to let someone you love hurt so much and you hurt and he's the only person you really want to talk to....I'm wait in believe me I am but I need my man.....I'm greatful for what your telling me and I'm trying to be there and let him know I'm here just we was starting a lil family and now we hardly talk I never seen him so hurt

[AnnieBrooke]

You can't make a man who is in grief do it differently than he is doing it.  Don't pound on him to talk to you, just be available.

[Nickie28]

I can't look at babies or anything I stay in the house cry at night stay up all night but I talking about it he's holding it in and that's what scares me

[Nickie28]

I'm not fine I still cry but Im more open about how I feel and we normally talk about thing but losing the baby shut him down when I had the miscarriage he could make it his boss could let him off and I didn't want him to lose his job we desided best to cremate the baby because they wanted to do operations because how much my child was develops the nurse was telling me and she was like don't let them touch that baby he didn't get to hold his child so I'm worried he's mad at himself we talk and he open just like me but I'm feeling like he hating himself

[AnnieBrooke]

One person deals with grief differently than another.  You might need to leave him alone and let him decide how to cope.  It depends on his style.  The main thing is that if you deal by acting casual and he deals by feeling the pain, don't act casual around him.  Do you not live together?  Just wait until you see each other again, then sympathetically ask how he is doing.  Don't act like you're fine after 2 days (my guess is that it will hit you in different ways at different times) or he might feel like you're saying he should be fine after 2 days.  The picture might have shocked him, too.  Good luck.