Miscarriage

[Pips]

Hello all ... I'm sorry to say that I am now able to join this forum.  :(  Went to doc for u/s this morning after watching hcg rize slowly for 3 weeks and bleeding for 12 days.  I should be 7 weeks 3 days today.  I had something suspicious yesterday, which after describing to my doc sounds like the sack.  Sure enough, there was nothing on the u/s but a thin line of tissue.  He said there was a little tissue left and the lining was thin as well so he didn't think the miscarriage would be too bad.  He gave me two pills of Cytotec to take orally.  I'm thinking I'll take them tonight after putting the kids to bed and hopefully pass the rest of the tissue as I sleep.

Does anyone have any experience with this drug and could give me any thoughts or advice.  The doc made it sound like the physical aspect would be no big deal.  Of course we know the emotional/mental is another story.

Thanks for your help!

[Reden]

Thank-you and as for your friend I can certainly relate and empathize I know that if there has to a next time then i will insist on the d/c but I'm setting the intent that 3 times is a charm and it will be full term healthy happy baby! Blessings to you now and in the future!
Reden

[Pips]

Thanks for your response.  I did a lot of soul searching last night and was going back and forth between taking the pills and not.  Ultimately I decided to trust my doctor and give it a go.  I think the big difference for me was that I had already passed the baby.  In fact, the doc said if he hadn't seen what he did on the u/s I would be having a d/c.  There just isn't much left.  Thank God for that!

I'm sorry for what you had to go through.  I had a friend that did the pills vaginally after miscarrying at 9 weeks and it was a similar situation to yours.  I don't think it was quite as bad, but I know I was traumitized from watching it.  

I wish you luck with your ttc!!!

[Reden]

Sorry i did not see your email last night to respond. Last year I took the mesoprostal vaginally by myself like I said. I also too Robaxecet,  adivan, and tramacet for the pain to help me sleep through it. I woke up out of a dead sleep running to the bathroom it was as if my whole body was exploding (sorry for the graphics) that is why I spent the night on the bathroom floor. The tissue passed 3 days later. For me it was a heavy period. This time around with another Dr, she said to take it orally with Percocet, and Adivan. With Hubby by my side to watch and assist he made me double the percoset as the pain was still excrutiating but the bleeding began gradually building momentum and the tissue clots past within that afternoon. As my Hubby is a family Doc he is very compassionate and says that because I have a history of bad PMS my body has learned to metabolize pain killers really well so I suffer on a different level. I'm relieved to hear that you did not go through what I did, nobody should and I did not want you to be alone just in case, but I'm glad you did fine, physically now for emotional.
Emotionally I am a wreck but from last year I have a wonderful hypno therapist. I hope you take time to heal and cuddle the kids you already have. I'm 43 years old working on just one but I haven't given up hope and nor should you!  Be gentle with yourself!  Thank you to everyone else who has responded as you have been helpful to me too! Reden

[bam1014]

Thank you so much for posting your experience.  I too found that during my m/c in which I was told the gestational sac was measuring small, I couldn't find anybody with the same problem.  After my m/c I posted my experience so other women on this site would be able to have some information.

This is a hard hard process we go through and it's always comforting to know that somebody else has already been in our shoes and that you are not alone.

I'm so sorry for your loss and what you've had to go through.

[Pips]

Wow Sazy .. that *****!  I'm so sorry for your loss!  We'll do it together I guess...

An update on me...  It is now 6:00 am here and I took the pills at about 10:15 last night and went to bed about an 1 1/2 hour later.  I had no prescribed pain killers, only tylenol in the house (thought there was ibuprofen and was wrong).  So I took tylenol and headed off to bed.  I had a really hard to falling asleep because I was scared ... however i only experienced mild cramping and mild lower back pain.  I awoke occationally throughout the night ... but not because of pain, and noticed similar feelings and went right back to sleep.  This morning there was virtually no blood when I woke ... just one big clot ... but then lots came out when I went to the bathroom ... not a lot of blood, mostly tissue I'm assuming.  The bleeding now is more like a medium day of your period.  Not even heavy.

Sorry if that was too graphic ... but I wished I could have found more details when I was looking ... so I described it.

Again ... my doc had me take the Cytotec (mesoprostal) orally and I had pretty much passed the baby a day earlier on my own.  This was only to remove remaining tissue.  But overall it hasn't been bad (physically I mean).  I hear though that using the meds vaginally is a whole different story.

[Sazy26]

Hi, not sure if you remember me but I've just moved over from June 09 babies. I basically lost one twin and the other is on it's way out. Im waiting for a call from the dr to tell me it's time to D&C tomorrow. I know how you feel. It's horrible. I don't have any children and was excited to become a mother. I feel to scared to try again now.

Anyway, you are in my thoughts and I hope you start to feel better soon

xoxo

[Pips]

did you do it vaginally or orally?  I was getting ready to take the pills and now I'm freaked out!  I'm pretty sure I already passed the baby and have been bleeding for 12 days, so I don't think there is much left.  My doc said taking it orally is a much different experience then vaginally.

Hope you are still around...

[Reden]

Hey just went through my second m/c this week. The first was last year at 10 weeks and I was given something called mesoprostal. I was told that it would be just like a heavy period. Thinking I would take it and some pain meds and sleep through while my fiance was working night shift and greet him with a smile in the morning....not so, I spent the night on the bathroom floor writhing in pain too scared to be too far from the toilet. The pain was unbearable and it took 3 days for the sac to pass. I still had to have a D and C. This time same thing only 5 weeks along. My now Husband held my hand aided with ice paks and hot water bottles and a higher prescription of pain meds which still sucked but I was not alone this time. I guess what I'm getting at is please don't do this alone have someone there for you! My hubby is a family Doc( was not familiar with what the OBGYN prescribed last year but is now)  and he felt just as helpless as anyone else...he was there as my husband not my Dr and cried along with me as it was his loss to. Please don't do it alone. My heart goes out to you, Reden

[peterjl]

So sorry for your loss!  I do have experience with Cyotec, but my story is a little different.  I was 16 weeks pregnant- went in for routine checkup and unable to find hb.  U/S confirmed baby had died.  I was induced in the hospital the next day to give birth to our baby with Cyotec.  I was given 200mg vaginally x2 to induce labor.  The contractions were horrible but at least I was able to deliver our son and see him.  I ended up going to emergency surgery for D & C since I was bleeding so much.  I don't think the dose you take will be as much, but I have heard that it still can be unpleasant with cramps and bleeding.  Hopefully your doctor gave you some pain pills to take as well.  Just know that you, your dh, and mother in law will be in my prayers.  Healing will take time.

[Pips]

Thanks for making me smile... I've felt like his expectations are a little much at times as well.  But I am thankful for all that I do have.

It's weird ... I have 2 kids and the youngest is 6.  Dh's mom was diagnosed and she started treatments the day my youngest was born.  She finished her treatment and then drove like a bat out of hell to get here and made it in time.  Now we're pregnant again and miscarry at the same time she seems to be loosing her fight.  Doesn't carma suck!

[mapes10]

As I said before, I am so sorry for your loss.  During our miscarriage we went two times and did not see a heart beat.  The second time the dr said the miscarriage would happen over the weekend.  We went back the next week and saw a heart beat.  Four weeks later, there was no heart beat and the baby stopped growing at 7 weeks.  My mom has been battling cancer for 3 years, and we got some pretty difficult news this summer.  I know that it feels like when it rains it pours!!!  We have all heard that God never gives us more than we can handle, but sometimes I think He thinks a little too much of my abilities :)  Feel free to post anytime.  As I told you, the ladies here are amazingly supportive.

[steph9803]

I'm so sorry for your loss...I m/c'ed naturally also so I don't know much about the pills...I will definatly keep you and your family in my thoughts...

[Pips]

Thanks ... it must be especially hard once you've seen the hb ... and I'm sorry for your loss as well.

There seems to be so much else going on right now.  dh is with his mom in the hospital 4 hours away.  She's been fighting cancer for 6 years and things are not good right now.  I'm hoping if I do the pills tonight I can recover and go up with them for the weekend.

Can we not have one crisis at a time?

[bam1014]

I know how rocky the wait can be.  I had 1 u/s at 8 weeks and she told me I was "on the fence" and gave me a 50/50 chance of m/c and then scheduled a 2nd u/s for 7 days later.  I spent the whole week on the internet to see what my chances were.  I was prepared, as best I could be for the bad news, but I saw and heard the HB on the 1st one so there was still hope.  On the 2nd u/s the HB was gone and my baby hadn't grown.  I was spotting brown that day, so the tech said the m/c would happen right away.  I was devastated.  But m/c 3 days later.  It was emotionally and physically painful.  I was reminded this week that I would have been 20 weeks and we would have known the sex of our baby now.  I had been doing fine up until then.  But I did have a private little cry this week for my lost little one.  It's okay to mourne, just so long as you don't lose sight of the world around you.  I wish you the best on your recovery.

[Pips]

Thanks, I appreciate it!  I found myself saying at some point this week ... how many times are you supposed to mourne for one baby?!?!?!  It seems like it's so up and down as you wait ... one minute you are positive it's over ... the next you can see that baby growing up.  Auughhh!

By the point that I got the ultrasound though I was ready for it to be over, whatever the outcome.  Hopefully the recovery won't be too bad.

Thanks for your support!

[bam1014]

I'm so sorry that you have to join us.  What a sad way to meet new people :(  I don't have any experience with Cytotec as I m/c naturally in Aug (at 9w).
But I wanted to reach out and let you know we are all here for you.  The ladies in this forum are so supportive and absolutely fantastic.  We have all faced our own struggles during this rollar coaster of a journey and we are here to give hugs and horaays as needed.
Please feel free to post or vent or just let us know how you are feeling.  We are always nice to the newbies :)