Should I stop counting how many weeks I should be?

[nunu1977]

I should have been close to 13 weeks with my twins... I keep on wondering how big my tummy should be right now and how I should have been close to or already over morning sickness. I worry that if im not preggers again my the time I should have been due with the twins in April Ill have a melt down! I think it would be stupid to ask if anyone else feels the same way because im sure you all do.
Tomorrow my DH is running a 5K run at the Animal Kingdom. He said he was looking forward to me walking around with him after it he done with my big belly. I don't mind when he expresses himself to me like that because it makes me realize how excited he was I was preggers... especially with twins! he says he prays every night that we will have the oportunity to have twins when I get pregnant again.
I know it is a lot different for me as a woman because i was carrying the twins in me but we cant forget our DH and the fact that they morn the loss as well.

[tarrah87]

it'll get easier as time goes by.

[nunu1977]

I keep getting this email once a week to tell me how far a long I am and a ultrasound pic of what my babies should have looked like. I didn't bother me too much in the begining but thought i really should cancel the emails. yesterday i got a 13 week email and it hit hard. I have now stopped the emails.

[Jillian923]

I should be 33 wks. this week actually. I lost our baby in April and I have had a lot of complications since(not starting a cycle) that I never had before the pregnancy. So it has been really tough. I did wonder that also if I was the only one counting...I guess I am not. I have had a really hard time because my neice(my stepbrothers daughter) is pregnant we were going to be two weeks apart with our deliveries.  Its been hard watching her belly grow..luckily I havent seen her in almost 2 months I've been kind of avoiding her..I was kind of hoping I would be pg. by now but I'm not. I am going to see a specialist Oct. 24th...so hopefully they will be able to fix this issue..
Best of luck to you..

[tarrah87]

yes i want twins again so bad, but have a feeling i'll never get that chance again. losing my babies was the hardest thing i've ever had to go through, and yes, i was happy for my best friend but at the same time i sit and wonder how my little boys would have been doing right now. the more you think about it and how far along you are suppose to be and etc the harder it's gonna be. my twins had twin to twin transfusion syndrome and i have an incompatent cervix all was found all far to long we spent hundreds of dollar in another state for treatment and while in ohio had my babies 3 days b4 my birthday my birthday i'll always think of my babies, i feel like if i have twins again it'll almost take the pain away but it won't bc twins again will never replace what i lost. i'm hoping for twins this time but it's so rare for someone to get pregnant with twins twice. i wish you luck and your in my prayers i know how hard this is for you

[Dani711]

Yes we have been using the ovulation tests for 5 months.  The trickey part for us is that my cycles are from 25-31 days, but I seem to keep ovulating on day 14.  The thing is the dr. says to have intercourse every other day, which is hard to determine for sure the day i ovulate.
I also totally understand the feeling of all these women getting pregnant right away, I have been on this forum for so long all the ladies get to move to the "babies due"  forum and here I am.  But I am truley happy for them.  You are right though, i keep thinking that when the time is right, then it will happen.  But I am ready now.  It is a little weird though becasue each month my period is coming 5 days earlier than the last month, i used to be late all the time.  But the ovulation is still the same.  I guess the good thing about that is I don't have to wait as long to find out if I am preg and I don't have to wait as long to ovulate again!!

[nunu1977]

I have so many friends back home in New Zealand and over in Australia that were all pregnant a few months before me. I am so happy for them but at the same time am sad I am missing out. I am very happy for you that you are preggers again! I hope when i do I can have twins again... do you feel the same way?

[nunu1977]

I know if it takes me longer again that that just the way its meant to be. I think all the ladies I have started to talk with on here I will of course be jealous when one finally is pregnant but at the same time I will be soooo happy for them. I really hope it happens for you soon! do you use ovulation kits to help? This can help where DH is concerned so he doesn't feel like that's all you want him for for that week making sure get all your fertile days. Thats one thing I want to take easy on my DH. it became stressful at that time every month for both of us and I don't want the stress there at all now.

[tarrah87]

i understand how you feel sorry for your loss i lost identical twins at 21 weeks on  march 20, 2008 was due aug 1st with identical twin boys. my best friend had her baby may 24th and it killed me. i just found out again i was pregnat again in aug.

[Dani711]

I was so worried how i would handle not being pregnant again by the time my baby was due, and that time is here.  Only two weeks away and not preg yet.  It is so hard, but not as bad as I thought it might be.  I am not going to lie..It *****.  It does not seem fair.  i figure if i had to go through such a loss at least let us try again.  I am ready and want it so bad.  I have always worried about my weight, but when i was pregnant, I LOVED seeing my belly grow.  I was 14 and a half weeks and just switching over to maternity clothes when we found out the baby was not going to be healthy.  All fingers and toes, great heart beat...but that was about all that was normal.  We didn't even get to know if it was a boy or girl.
BUT, the way I look at it, I had such an attachment to that child, i think I will KNOW if it is waiting to come back to us or if it will just always looking out for us.
Also my husband was really worried at first about trying and I know he will worry again when we are pregnant again BUT as time goes on he is ready and excited.  Good luck this weekend and make it fun!!  We are past the fun part anymore.  We have only been married 2 and a half years, but we have been together full time for around 7 years.  The passion is still there, but it is so different for them when they have to preform on cue!!  

[nunu1977]

For some time after we got married my DH said he wasn't sure if he wanted another child, mainly because of a lot that was going on in our life at the time (stress from his family). After things died down he said ok lets try (two years after we got married). it wasn't until I was finally pregnant and then finding out we were having twins that he really got excited about having a baby. DH knows my desire to get pregnant again and is keener to start trying now rather than wait the two months. for some he reason feels that everything will be ok no matter what. I hope he is right!

[mapes10]

I completely understand.  My sister and I were due about 2 weeks apart, and she just found out on Monday she's having a boy.  I think about how I should be finding out in a couple of weeks, and I wonder if we were having a boy or a girl.  I am just like you: I pray I am pregnant before February (due date).  I don't think I'll freak out, but I just know that every month I don't get pregnant will probably make me worry more.  I also know that once I do get pregnant I will be completely worried too.  Either way, I 'll be so excited.  DH and I actually talked last night about whether he really wants to officially "try" since we didn't try with the last pregnancy.  He said he was excited and ready to try, which is good because I am ready and I think I will O this weekend.  We'll see what happens, but I completely agree that our DH have to have a chance to grieve as well.