I know she was taking birth control, I saw her take it. I even asked if she was taking her birth control when we first had sex, after that I used a condom every other time. I have encouraged her as much as I can to see a doctor, I know she isn't on her family's insurance right now(she wasn't taking enough hours in college) and that's why I told her to at least go to a free clinic. I just don't see why she doesn't want to get a confirmation of what happened instead of assuming the worst. Thanks for all of your encouragement, this has been a lot for a 20 year old to deal with. I just want to make sure I do everything possible for both me and her to move on.
I cant say you will ever know if she miscarried unless she went to a dr. its really not something that she can diagnose herself unless you know she was pregnant and she had done a home pregnancy test that came out as positive.
she could get pregnant on birth control if she took antibiotics. Are you sure she is taking her birth control pills?
if she is random with taking her birth control then she could have messed up random periods. also cysts will cause a lot of abdominal pain.
It sounds like you've done all you can. Congrats on being there for your ex. You handled things very well. I wish you all the best in the future. :)
thanks for all the advice, I just encouraged her to at least go to a free clinic(she doesn't have insurance right now and won't until mid-january). I got the same response earlier that if she had more problems that she would go see a doctor. I think i've done all I can, I'm going to do my best to move on and hopefully she will as well. What I can say, is that for sure, I will never have sex without a condom again. It has caused way too much pain.
I too am sorry for what you're going through. I completely agree with Army Princess, you can get preg. on birth control. I have had cysts that have ruptured before and it does cause intense pain, but no bleeding. I also agree that your ex needs to see a Dr. to figure out what's going on. I know you can't force her to go to the Dr. but please try to encourage it. Has her pain/bleeding stopped? If not, she might be having an ectopic pregnancy, in which case she would require immediate medical attention. I wish you all the best and hope that you get some resolution to this situation. Good luck :)
I'm sorry for what you are going through. Okay I have had 6 m/cs all natural. I was on b/c when I had my first m/c I was pg with twins. So it is possible to become pg on b/c. I also one of my m/cs the month I got pg I got my period and then bleed again during implantation which was light and only last a few days if that. I have had ovarian surgery for a cyst bursting etc. It's possible to have your cycle irregular due to cysts but it wouldn't casue excessive bleeding like that. If she did have a m/c and has had heavy bleeding if her body does not expell all of the pg she may need a d and c so she won't get an infection. They may be able to confirm a pg with a pathology report or may not. When I had my m/c in sept they took tissue and it came back inconclusive but my hcg went down so that is how they confirmed it. You are right about not being able to force her to go get checked out but she should know how very important it is to follow up. A miscarriage is not something to take lightly. I hope for your sake you find the closure you are seeking. Let me know if there is anything else you need to know! Take care and best wishes to you and your ex.
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