Who's the father? Help me!

[Happygirl77]

This is kind of a long story. But I need to ask and get some reassurance! Ok, I had a one night stand with a friend on June 3rd 2010. We didn't use protection and had an "accident". Well on June 13th, I went to the ER due to some cramping and bleeding and was worried I was having another miscarriage (I had one in august of 2009). It turns out I did have a miscarriage I was about 5 or 6 weeks along. I don't know if my boyfriend fathered that baby or my one night stand friend. But about a month or so after the miscarriage I was feeling nauseous so I took a test and it was positive. I am now almost 39 weeks pregnant and I'm really concerned that my one night friend is possibly the father. The only thing is I had that miscarriage between having sex with him and my now boyfriend. I've used a conception calculator and from that it says my one night friend can't be the father, the math and dates just don't add up. But I'm just going crazy thinking about this every day! Am I crazy or should I be worried? Any answers will help please!

[Happygirl77]

Thank you!! I know it's a confusing situation, you had it right the first time! Its kind of an obvious answer, I know lol but this has just been bothering me for a while. I did have miscarriage diagnosed by a doctor, so I think you are right! I just needed someone to reassure me! So thank you, it makes me feel better!

[adgal]

Ok, I reread and I think I might understand.  You think that it's possible the miscarriage wasn't really a miscarriage right?  If that is what you mean, then I think you have nothing to worry about.  If you were properly diagnosed by a Dr. that it was in fact a miscarriage, that is probably the case.  It just sounds like you got pregnant very quickly afterward.  That happened to me too.  I had a very early miscarriage, and got pregnant with my son with no period or anything in between.  It sounds like that may be what happened to you, so therefor your one night stand could not be the father.

If the miscarriage was only diagnosed by yourself and you suspect the possiblity that it wasn't really a loss (some women do experience bleeding in early pregnancy and all is fine), the unfortunately the only way to know for certain is a DNA test after the baby is born.

I wish you well.

[adgal]

I am a bit confused.  You got pregnant, miscarried and got pregnant again right?  But if you had your one night stand before the miscarriage, he certainly cannot be the father of your baby.  I'm sorry, I would love to help, but I am not certain what you are asking?  Did you have another one night stand after the miscarriage?  (that isn't meant to be judgemental, I am just not clear on what your concern is).