m/c or abortion or something else...

[Dani711]

I have been on this forum for months since in april i found out at 14 weeks from a specialist that there was something very wrong with my baby, and if I kept it there was no way it could ever take a breath.  They also told me I could m/c very late in the pregnancy.  my question is since I had to actually go to an abortion clinic to have the procedure done (it was HORRIBLE) after ttc for years and  because of the laws I was too far along to do it in the drs office anywhere around her...well someone just asked me again today what happened.  My question is: is this a dnc or a m/c or a medical abortion?? I hate having to say that word when all we wanted was that baby.  It sounds so horrible to say.  
on another note we are still ttc and still NOTHING...I realize it may take long, I am staying so healthy and "treating my body as if it were pregnant" but the longer I am on this forum I keep losing friends that get to move to the other pregnancy forums and some days I get frustrated.  i guess I am just venting which is what this forum is about, so thanks!

[trynhard428]

I'm sorry for your lost and i hope you blossom again soon. To answer your question i would say it was a medical abortion, sorry. Good luck trying again.

[mapes10]

I would just say that I lost my baby.  Most people are just casually asking, and your closer friends will actually ask for the explanation.  Either way, you are grieving for a child you already wanted and loved.  I understand about the frustration about wanting to be pregnant.  We had a D&C in August after a miscarriage, so we are anxious to ttc this month.  I think we should start a post for those hoping to get pregnant this month!!!

[Dani711]

YES!  I wish there was a post for those who have lost a child but are now ready to move on and try again.  I am healthy and ready and anxious, but there is no forum to really discuss that.  I have grieved and am now ready to move on.  I don't think it happened for me this month, I am not due until Oct. 2, but I really think I would know.  I didn't know the last time because we gave up after years of trying so I didn't associate all the symptoms for a LONG time.  I say we were trying for years but I had no idea about the very limited time there was in a month to concieve.  In school they act like if you kiss a boy you can get pregnant!  This time we are doing the ovulation tests and everything and still nothing...  

[leighanne143]

medical abortion.  you had no choice.  if it makes you feel easier, you can say d and c because they are very similar procedures, you just have more done during the d and c.  But i also agree with mapes too, you could just say you lost the baby.  it is totallt your choice but you 100% do not have to say "i had an abortion."  i am sorry for your loss.  i know how you feel, i had 2 missed MC's and 2 d and c's in a 5 month timespan.  but do not give up hope becaus enow here i stand 18 weeks along with a healthy baby boy growing inside.