How in the world did I get pregnant the fist time?

[newstart10]

It's been close to two years since I  miscarried and I haven't gotten pregnant again.   I went to a new OBGYN in March and he wanted to do numerous tests and I haven't gone because I was scared, having a difficult time emotionally, feeling overwhelmed etc.   I just bought new ovulation test sticks today the ones that give you the smiley face if you are ovulating.  No smiley face, I get regular periods  and I do have that " mid cycle" cramping but now I am convinced that because my periods are so short 3 -4 days tops it's not really a period and I don't ovulate.  I guess I don't know what I am saying maybe just more of a ARRRR moment  but jeez how did I get pregnant so easily the first time?!   Do you think God is trying to tell us he doesn't want us to have kids?

[Chelsea74]

As others have said, there is an enormous amount of variation in the time it takes each woman to fall pregnant and even for the same woman with different pregnancies. Running some tests can't hurt though and if everything is fine it will set your mind at ease or if there is a problem you can address it and have your baby in your arms sooner.
Thanks for the motivation re exercise rccresswell and lisha1201 - I've only been at for two weeks now but already feeling better and fingers crossed I can keep it up.

[lisha1201]

I agree wit rccreswell. It took me over 2yrs 2 concieve. Keep in mind everyone is different. Some ppl fall preggers in no time w/ no problems and for others it takes yrs. Try not 2 stress/obsess over it. I did like rccreswell and laid in the bed pelvis up. Lol. Sounds crazy but I believe it helps guide the sperm 2 that egg. I also found that wen I started working out and lost weight I got pregnant. If u have been tracking your ovulation and seems its not happening u mite wana consultant a doc for help in pinpointing wen you're ovulationg cause that will be key. Good luck n try not 2 b hard on yourself. It will happen exactly wen its suppose to.

[rccresswell]

I think ttc is a very emotional and stressful thing to go through.  It took my husband and I 6 months to of trying (long for us but not long for others).  With the son I miscarried it took us 2 weeks.

Before I met my husband I had unprotected sex with a few partners (not a good thing) and never fell pregnant over  4 or 5 year period.  A few of my ex partners met new partners and fell pregnant straight away.  I was convinced I couldn't have children so when my husband and I started trying it was very nerve wracking.  

After my hubby and I got married I went off the pill and it took us 6 months of trying.  I would stay in bed and not move so everything would stay in, I would tilt my bottom to give the sperm an easier route (Sounds crazy).  At about the 6 month mark I had given up trying and we fell pregnant straight away.  

After I had my son my husband and I never used protection.  When he was about 10 months old we started trying for another.  It took us another 6 months of trying.  By the 6 month mark i had given up trying and I was pregnant.  This time I had tracked ovulation on the computer and tried to have sex when I was ovulating.

With my son I miscarried my husband and I weren't too bothered if we fell pregnant straight away so when we decided to try 2 weeks later I was pregnant.  I didn't use any protection after my daughter so I fell pregnant when she was 10 months old.

In the beginning I believe I never fell pregnant because I kept pushing the sperm out (something most women would do) when I am ttc I have to keep it all in.  With all of my pregnancies if I pushed the sperm out I wouldn't fall pregnant because after all my children it was about a year and a bit before we fell pregnant again (I hope that makes sense)

Stress is a huge factor.  The baby making process is very stressful and difficult.  You need to have sex at the right time and for myself you need to stay in bed so nothing comes out lol.  I would recommend seeing a doctor, it will set your mind at ease and then you will know!!!  My brother and his wife took 3 years to fall pregnant and there son is now 4 and they haven't managed to conceive again!!!!

I forgot to mention I had joined the gym and I believe getting fit had helped me to conceive as well.  Getting fit and healthy

Try and relax and build up the courage to see a doctor.