incomplete miscariage? 20wkks?!

[mandabear12113]

Incomplete miscariage really? 20*4wks?  She was moving earlier & before.  She's not a clot size....this will hurt won't it?  I want to do it natural so we can bury her next to my gma. i will not have her sucked out in pieces... i want a second ultra soud..... second opinion.... have a doc apt on monday... after the er visit i would rather not.  I'm new here so i hoped but. I'm angry &  hurt & alone. 13yrs i  have waited,,,,, just to have this happen. i know everything happens for a reason but i am blind so overwhelmed w/grief & anger. i was waiting to get bby stuff. had nothing set up. moving & setting now. but w/out her. i have never been through this & really need female advice please. my love is trying, he is but he's not walking around w/our dead baby inside...sorry. heartbroken.

[rinda09]

My water broke at 19 weeks the first time I got pregnant!  I had to deliver him natural! The doctor would not let me bury him but sent him off for research!  Biggest mistake ever! Make sure you get a second opinion! I have nothing but songrams of him! Make sure to get foot print to! Wishing best of luck!

[EMOTIONALx2]

I understand your anger. It's natural emotions one feels especially knowing you've waited 13yrs and for this to happen. I was 17 weeks so I understand and one I was having contractions and the dr didn't know and the second one the sac just came out. I was only trying for two years and that seemed like a lifetime. Even now it's been 4 months and nothing, which every month seems longer. You grieve the way you need to but talking is a big relief. I talk about it with my bf and that helps more Than anything, when he say things in a joking matter I know he is still hurting as well. That's a tough road to cross in your situation I just hope if all fails you can cross it no matter how long it takes. Your right my biggest help through it all is believing that everything happens for a reason and that also plays apart in how I deal with things. So good luck I hope it all works out and at the end no matter I hope you find peace and strength. We are here if you need to talk.

Good luck

[wingsfrompye]

*Massive hugs*
Sorry I can't offer anything more than that, my miscarriage was only at 6 weeks...  I can't imagine how much more upset you must be.  Hang in there and talk to your love as much as you can.  Remember he might be scared and sad too, just not knowing how to bring it up.  
Good luck tomorrow.