Am I mean?

[shannic]

My bf sister is 7 months pregnant she is 2 months farthwer along then I would have been.She calls yesterday and informs us shes having twins.Am I mean because I just cant handle being around her right now? I am happy for her but I just cant take watching her rub her belly or talk about her pregnancy.My bf seems to think I am.

[leon0409]

Not at all, I had a miscarriage about 4 months ago and it is still hard to look at pregnant women right now. I don’t hate them, it just makes me sad and reminds me that I would be there too if this would not have happened. I don’t think your friend realizes she is being insensitive by talking about her pregnancy with you. If she knows about your loss, then she should just keep it to herself and instead just not say anything, sometimes that is the best people can do. But no,  you are not being mean, it’s normal for people that have gone through what we have gone through to feel that way. Hang in there, your turn will come too, just have faith. Best of luck
Hopeful K

[flippert]

Definitely understandable feelings. I lost my baby 6 months ago. There were two other women pregnant at work at the same time as me, one has just had her baby and the other will have hers in a week. So it was hard to see them grow every day and hear them talk baby stuff.

There is now a third woman pregnant, and while I don't hate her for it, i find it very hard to put on a brave face as she parades her bump and talks baby stuff everyday!! I have at times had to walk away as the tears well up.

but don't worry about your feelings, you are not mean, its all perfectly acceptable! Take care.

[shannic]

Thankyou very much.that makes me feel a little better.I was actually beginning to think i was mean.

[annaleesmom]

no are definately not mean.  Try not to be hateful towards her.  Your feelings are definately understandable.  try to explain to your friend that your emotions are hard to handle right now and you just need some space from all the "baby stuff".

don't feel bad about what you are feeling.  It is OK to have these thoughts and emotions.  I think something would be wrong if you didn't feel this way.