miscarraige of one twin

[aloneandunsure]

i am apparently 7 weeks into my pregnancy and have miscarried one twin. i wasnt aware of my pregnancy as i have the implanon in (now removed) and wasnt aware until the cramping and bleeding began and i saw a doctor urgently.  i have been into hospital and had an ultrasound but the doctors were very.... to themselves. the next day i went in and was told i had miscarried one twin but there was still one heartbeat. my partner in interstate on business and keeps asking me al these questions like what do i have to do next?, what tests have to be done? and what are the chances of it happening again with the 2nd twin? as he is worried about me and our unborn child. my doctor gave me little information other than to wait it out and see what happens before doing any tests as i am only 23 years old and have a healthy 3 year old boy. but my partner wants more answers and i cant give them to him as the doctors treated me like i wasnt there and made me feel very unsure about anything going on with my own body. i was told the 1st twin had passed as a complete misscarraige and no D&C was required in case of causing further complications. my partner is getting antzy with me as i cannot tell him things i do not know and i understand his frustration. i am just after some answers so when i next approach my doctor in 3 days time i can ask questions about what needs to be done. i am also curious as to how long after a misscarraige can it be detected as i am thinking about a 2nd opinion if its not too late to tell. i only misscarried last wednesday and bleeding stopped on saturday. i am scared about any further problems with the second twin and wish to know as much information as possible so i can go into the doctors strongly and ask for whatever tests need to be done and seem like i know what is happeneing to my own body. someone please help me

[Destiny_Hope]

I had twin pregnancy, and had the same thing,
My first bay passed at 7wks and the other passed at 8wks5days,

I wouldnt do any thing but wait, as brirya said let nature take it cause, the body is a wonderful thing:)

I hope all goes well with the 2nd baby.

[Briniya]

I undersatnd the doctor's decisions to not take any further actions because the removement of the twin that has passed could cause the death of the twin that is alive. The only thing left to do is up to the course of nature. At an eraly stage as 7 weeks, the baby wasn't even fully developed. What will happen after you stop bleeding is that your body will just absorb the remains of the decease twin.

[LUV__ME]

i'm sorry for you loss in one of the twin.

i wish you a good pregnancy for the one remaining.

[aloneandunsure]

thankk you for your help. i have just been informed by another doctor that my cervix is soft and i will probably begin to loose the second baby within the next few days.im so scared as now my partner is yelling at me as the doctors will not call him and let him know what is happening. i dont want him being mad at me when there is nothing i can do. im feeling very alone and scared about going through it all again on my own and need his support but all he wants to know is why the doctors wont tell him anything over the phone even tho i have tried explaining to him they wont unless he is there at the time of the appointment but he is frustrated as he is not here and noone will tell him anything. i am so confused about so much but thank you for all your help. it has been much appreciated to have someone to talk to as we are miles away from any family or friends.

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm not sure of the questions to ask other than did they when they took your initial blood did they see if you are a genetic carrier or is there an issue with your rh. It's hard to know what may have caused it. I would like I said ask for another u/s and have them check your hcg levels. If you are not happy with the info you receive I would get a 2nd opinion. I don't like saying this but you may not find out why it happened. I would make sure to go over everything what your chances are of losing this baby etc. I would try to take it easy and rest as much as possible. I'm so sorry you are going through this. Best wishes to you and I will be crossing my fingers for you!

AP

[aloneandunsure]

thank you for the information. unfortunatly my partner left for his interstate job 3 weeks ago and we found out when we were across opposite sides of the country. i understand his frustration as im feeling the same way. he spoke to a first aid lady where he is staying and she was saying about spinal cord testing should be done but i didnt think that was something that would have to take place until later. is this something i should ask my doctor about?i am so confused as my 1st pregnancy ran smoothly and i was so unprepared for all this. my partners new bos will not allow him the time he wants off to be with us while we go through all this alone and i am very scared for my unborn child as i want to be able to everything i can to ensure its safety as im sure u understand. is there any other forms of testing i should/could have done?

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm sorry for your loss. It may be to late to tell your levels may have gone down to a singleton pg. You never know though I would go ahead and get a 2nd opinion. I would ask for another u/s and have your blood drawn to see where your levels are at. I would also try to take it easy try to rest and stay well hydrated. It's hard sometimes there are no answers that can be given to us and there is nothing the dr's can do other than monitor your pg closely. I would try to have your partner at your next app so any questions he may have he can ask. I have suffered 6 m/cs one was with my daughter's twin at 14 wks so I have been in your shoes. I'm here if you need to talk. Best wishes to you and let me know what happens.....

AP