dealing with miscarriage

[julie635]

I had a miscarriage at the end of January of this year. I've had trouble dealing with it. I found out the day i had my miscarriage there were twins . I was 9 weeks. the ultrasound showed me at 4 1/2 weeks the babies had stopped growing. I'll never know what they were. I want to do something to remember them but not sure what to do.

[DMarie919]

I have started a memory box for mine, as one of our churches gave us a prayer shawl for the baby, and I am going to put cards I have received, the u/s, and after reading some others posts..I think I will put the hpt in there...my initial response was to throw it away, in a moment of defeat, but I know where it is still and I think I'm going to put it in the memory box.  I also bought a ring with the baby's birthstone in it.  I have also thought of naming the baby.  Maybe some of these things would help you.  I know it is hard to envision this life that you will never see and it is hard to memorialize what you can not see.  I feel like that too as I ended up having a d&c on 2/19/09 and so I never even saw evidence other than the u/s scan which they did not give me a copy of...but I am asking for one at my followup appointment.  It's the only piece of tangible evidence that I will have that the life I wanted so badly was there....well, take care and I hope this helps a little.  

[ArmyPrincess819]

You could write a beautiful poem or start a journal or scrap book and dedicate it to them. I'm so sorry, My middle daughter was a twin I lost her twin at 14 wks. Everytime I look at her I think about the other baby but I'm so grateful to have her. In time you will find peace and everyday will get easier. Best wishes to you.....

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[smr08]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my son in Oct. at almost 5 months. I had a memory box made and keep his u/s pics, birth pics, HPT, blanket he was wrapped in, I could go on and on but like the other ladies said there are web sites for jewelery and also for rememberance candles that you can light on line and give the link to family members to do the same. There are also memory walls, I added my son on one. If you ever need to talk feel free to pm me.
                                         Lori

[bam1014]

I'm very sorry for your losses.  Like the others said there are websites that specialize in m/c keepsakes, you just need to do some googling.  This is a warm and supportive community and if you need to vent at all, please feel free to post.

[sakers1985]

hey I got my babysashes in a necklace that i wear but also there is this website that you can buy jewlery to remember your little one

http://www.limogesjewelry.com/Custom.asp?productid=6893

[kgokgo]

I'm sorry about your losses. I had two consecutive miscarriages last year and have just found out am pg again. I remember coming across a website which makes rememberance things after a m/c like miscarriage bracelets etc. I can't remember the webadd but if you google miscarriage bracelets I think it will come up. Once again, I'm sorry about your losses.

[steph9803]

I'm so sorry for your losses. I lost my angel at 9w3d. My baby had stopped growing at 5 weeks. I did get to see my tiny little peanut which I am greatful for. We named our baby Cameron. It helped me a lot to give my baby more of an identity. I also make a box like Natalie suggested. I put my HPT, all of the magazines, the things that I had bought already, and the u/s pictures in it. You will always remember your babies, but the pain will get easier. I know you don't think so now...but it will. Feel free to write me anytime you want someone to talk to. *hugs*

[natalie910]

I am so sorry for your loss of the twins. I just recently experienced a m/c so I know some of what you may be going through. It has been suggested that you could write a special not to your babies, make a keepsake box of mementos (ultrasound pics if you have any). I was 16w and I had a baby book and I wrote in some of the entries about how we felt when we found out, possible names, a letter about how I felt after I found out I was pg etc. I don't have many suggestions but I know what you mean about remembering them, it's just heartbreaking and I'm truly sorry you had to experience this. There are many wonderful women here and I am sure you will get some good idea.
Take care.
Natalie