what point in your life did you miscarry?

[annaleesmom]

I was wondering about all of you who have had miscarriages multiple or single.  

when you miscarried did you already have a child?  (live full term)

was this your first miscarriage?

I guess I'm wondering why????  Why me?  why us?  when this happens numerous times to a woman, does that woman ever have other full term babies?

I feel terrible for all of you who have experienced this multiple times.   I have a 4yr old now, and just miscarried at 13 weeks.  what are the chances of this happening again?  I'm becomming really scared that I won't have another chance.

for those of you who have had more than one, what does your doctor say?

How much medical reasearch have they done on this?  So many of us are suffering broken hearts.

[qdoknee77]

I had a healthy baby boy in 03 it was my 1st pregnancy. Then in October 04 I had a miscarriage at 15 wks. I had another miscarriage in June 05 at 12wks. and another in January 05 at 6 wks. Then in January 07 I had my 2nd healthy baby boy. In July 08 had another miscarriage at 6wks. Now I'm pregnant and praying everyday everything is going good. I had a lot of test done but they couldn't find anything wrong.
-Jamie

[Lalyn]

I had a healthy baby girl in '06 no complications and it was my 1st pregnancy.  Then in August '08 I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks for no apparent reason.  I got pregnant soon after for a 3rd time and had a miscarriage at 12 weeks in January '09.  They sent me in to get all my levels checked but they found nothing wrong with me.  I got pregnant for a 4th time (my current pregnancy) and I am at 20 weeks now with no complications so far.  There was no rhyme or reason for my multiple miscarriages other than my husband was deployed in Iraq during the 2nd miscarriage so maybe I was under excessive stress.  I hope everything works out for you and you get pregnant soon!!!
-Laura

[ttc23412]

i had an early mc at 17, and then a mc at 12 weeks, when i was 19 after i got married

[kristine625]

DMarie919,  I completely agree that it is truly horrible that the medical community has to wait for so many unfortunate events before they will investigate.

I am 39, no kids yet, married over 3 years, my DH and I have had four mc over the last 18 months.  All investigations and blood work, everything has come back normal.  My RE is now running further tests for Natural Killers and an antiphospholipid antibody panel.  We had already tested for APAS and it came back negative, but I guess the panel is more indepth.  I really do not understand all of this testing.  It seems like they say, "We've tested for everything, there is nothing more we can test for." Then all of a sudden he is suggesting more testing.  He admits he really doesn't expect the tests to turn up anything but he is running them anyway.

So, in short, I am being told that all we can do is keep trying.  And it is just a matter of how many miscarriages we will go through to get the end result.

I have completely stopped telling people when I am pregnant because we get pregnant on the first try, however we lose it around the five week mark.  And I got soooo burned out from having to hear people tell me how sorry they are.

I mean the first preg I told literally about 40 people.  Then, I had to explain to 40 people that the preg didn't work.  Then, I had to sit and listen to how sorry those 40 people were.

Even my family didn't understand.  My sister specifically asked me, "who do you want me to call?"  She offered to call and notify the family members to spare me that drama.  And can you believe each and every one of them called me to tell me how sorry they were after she gave specific instructions NOT to call.  I know I am lucky to have family that cares so much, but it did not help to have to listen to all of the pain that they were feeling.  It didn't help at all.  It made it worse.

[DMarie919]

My name is Dana.  I have a healthy 2 and a half year old baby boy.  In January 09 I became pregnant with my second child, but we found out on Feb. 13th that the baby didn't have a heartbeat.  I was around 7 weeks along.  I am now 31, and we have been ttc for over 6 months now with no luck.  I am hoping that if/when I do get pg. that it will be a healthy pregnancy but I also fear the worst now going through this situation.  I wish you the best of luck and I'm sorry for your loss.  It is easy to wonder "why me" and it doesnt ease the hurt you have just to say that it's a "common" occurance.  It still hurts and we may never know why it happens.  My dr. said if it should happen again they would do more extensive testing....it's disheartening to think that they can say that...when what it really means to you is "If your world gets shattered again, maybe now someone will care to help you out".  Again, I am sorry :(  

[usuk]

i heard the same thing. it's like your body is a computer scanning for viruses 24/7. that helps explain why some happen at 10 wks, 12 wks etc even after heartbeat.

good luck to you all.