Tell or not?

[mapes10]

Hey ladies.  I am hoping we all have this problem soon, but I was wondering when you get pregnant again, how soon will you tell others?  I want to scream it from the rooftops, but my dr always says to wait until the first trimester is over.  He said that both with my son and with the recent miscarriage.  What do you think?

[bam1014]

When I got pg, I wasn't planning to tell a bunch of people, but we had to tell my MIL, since she was asking every day.  I told the girl I share an office with and that's when she told me she was too, 1 week ahead of me.  She wanted to tell our boss right away, so I got dragged into the momentum of shocking everyone in the office that we were both pg.  Then I told EVERYBODY, anybody, even strangers (we had been TTC for 2 years so we were very excited).

When I get pg again (God willing I do), I think that I will be much more select in who knows right away.  Probably only the people that I feel will be the greatest comfort if I m/c again.

[nunu1977]

with my firsts pregnancy my husband said not to tell anyone for a while.. by the time he got home that same day he had told all his friends so I said what the heck and told everyone as well. then when we found out i was having twins we were so excited we told everyone that as well.. then I had a miscarriage.
When I get pregnant again I will only tell a few select like my mum and a few close friends. telling everyone I had lost my babies was so hard
but its up to you really.

[leighanne143]

after 2 MC's and then got pregnant this time, i only told close close people right away, like my mom and my best friend.  then after i got through the 13 week mark, i slowly started to tell more people.  i am 19 weeks along now and still jsut telling some people.

i took it very slow after 2 losses.  like i said i did tell some because god forbid if it happened again, i wanted some suport but i also did not want everyone to know in case of something bad i did not want all of the "oh i am so sorry's."

[wanting4#1]

Hi! I hope it's okay to answer you - I didn't even know about this forum until just now!  I have had three miscarriages (one with Clomid, one with IVF and one naturally)...the way that I handled it was to tell people who I have taken on this long journey with me and who I would want to support me through the miscarriage (a cousin, brothers, parents, etc.).

We only told extended friends with the first one and I think that made it harder, but with this last one that happened quickly, I was still glad that I told people so that I had them to lean on!

And of course, I tell my cyberfriends when I THINK I might be pregnant! :)

[Juana824]

We told everyone as soon as we found out, I now regret that since I just miscarried. Next time I think I will wait....Today is my first day back at work and I can't stop crying because people are still congratulating me, then I tell them the bad news...Good luck to you both...

[Dani711]

My husband said the same thing about waiting to tell people when we know everything is ok with the baby, but we have been trying again for so long i know personally that i will tell everyone.  Just getting pregnant again is going to be so exciting it is worth the heartbreak for me if something doesn't go right.  I personally know i will be able to handle people asking questions again.  I guess that is the question you need to figure out for yourself...if you could handle all the questions if god forbid something happened again.  i am sorry for your loss and good luck!!