I have had a break today thanks to one of my friends thank god and mentally feel better but physically i am no better but i will still go on holiday for the 4 day break as my kids will be upset if i dont go.
take care,if you ever want to talk pm me as i know how hard it is to be on your own in a relationship.
sam x
((((Sam)))),
I am so sorry you are feeling bad...I know all too well, the feeling of your head knowing what you can/cant do, and your heart telling you the exact opposite. Being a single mom must be so difficult, I can only imagine. (although I am married, but at times feels as if I am a single mom too).
It is very frustrating to not be able to do all the things with your kids that you want to do. I am in the same position at the moment, and I have been doing way too much. My vision is starting to get better, I have tried to take it easier the last 2 days.
But here I am today, they want to go to the pool. It is again hot, and I am going, but in my heart I am praying for thunderstorms to let me stay home. I do it to myself. We are our own worst enemies, I think.
If I was someone else, I could tell them exactly what to do or not do. Take care of yourself, blah blah blah. I do not follow my own advice, but I do know school is starting soon, and things "should" calm down.
I am thinking of you today.
Michelle
Hi All
Thanks for your comments. One of the only 2 friends that understand how hard this is has offered to take the kids for a day,thank god and i get to rest!!!!!!!!!!!
maggie
the trip was with my me and the kids going to see friends in cornwall (i used to live there not seen them in 6 yrs) a 7-8 hr drive but i cant drive that far so my husband(separated) is going to drive us as he has family down there too. I wish he would have them for the week but he has limited holiday and his job is in danger at the moment so he does not want to push it, he does alot for us anyway and is around as much as he can but i do wish he would take them out at weekends he does sometimes but mostly he comes round here i chill upstairs but the kids are in and out every sec but i do need a break i am tempted to let him go on his own but there not his friends there mine and if i dont go the kids and my friends will be so gutted. I'll see how today pans out.
thanks all. x
Was your going away trip to be by yourself? If so, maybe you will feel up to going in a few days. As you know you need to take care of yourself.
Please don't take this the wrong way! I know you love your kids! But, is there any way their Dad could take them for a week or so, to give you some rest? Then you would be more able to cope with them. I think most mothers at some time or other has wished to run away from home, and just take care of themselves. Mothering has to be the most rewarding, and least thanked job there is. Please hang in there, school will start soon.
Maggie
I don't know how you do it. My children are grown and on their own, I don't think I would be able to do what you have been doing....
Bravo for doing so much, but now you have to take care of yourself too...or it will take it's toll on you and effect everything else...
please take it easier, I can understand feeling horrible that you can't do what the kids want, but reality is reality... and isn't fun...
take care
wobbly
dx
Try not being so hard on yourself. You are doing more than you should be able to do. We as women guilt ourselves a lot reguarding our kids. Try to stop when you go down that path and think you are your friend not yourself. What would you tell that person in your postition. .
I am sure you are harder on yourself than you would be on a friend or enemy for that fact.
All my best, and hugs across the ocean!
Karen
Oh sweetie, throw a few things (cushions and soft toys are good) and sit down with a tub of icecream. Get the kids to join in with both it will do you all good.
You've been here before you know you will make it and that you will come here again. Just lean of the forum and your friends hun and you will make it through.
Loads of cyber mum hugs coming your way ((((((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))))
P.S. Ben and Jerrys is good
I'm so sorry you are in so much pain. Kids can definately make it harder, knowing what you want to do with/for them and what your body tells you you can't. Especially if they are not old enough to really understand.
Take a deep breath. Do something you enjoy that doesn't tax your body. Eat your favorite foods! School starts soon. You'll make it!