Want to do stuff but can't

[calamardy]

I already made a similar post to this, but now I reached a point where I realised a lot of the confuseness I had about the subject was being created by myself, so now I see the problem in a much simpler way, but it's still kind of hard to explain.

The thing is most of the time I feel kind of unfocused, apathic and lazy. Looking back at what my life has been (I'm 19) I note it seems I've always been that way, I've never had a girlfriend, most of the time I just stayed by a side when there was a game on school or something, never made strong friendship (except with a few people that my family is attached to)... et cetera, as conclusion, a very passive life. That didn't make me really sad or something, I just kept going.

Like two years ago I strongly proposed my self to make better the situation with the university, It actually got worst because I progressively got more obssesed with thoughts and confussion, but since like a week ago it seems I got over that stage, wich is what I refer to on the first paragraph.

I can't make the situation better, wich is why all that confuseness started. As I said, I feel kind of unfocused, apathic and lazy.

It's like I don't have the energy to think and do the stuff I want to do comfortably. There are lot of things I want to do but I just don't feel able to.

Seeing I've kind of been like this my whole life (or at least the part I can remember), could that mean that it's just the way I'm made?, do people just get born with different levels of "vitality"?. I see how other people are so fluid and focused on their stuff but I just can't.

I don't think it's a diet problem cause I eat fine, not completly balanced but fine.

Help please, feel free to ask questions.

[tryinot2whine]

Have you considered/consulted your doctor about Attention Defecit Disorder?  Your lack of focus/commitment to completing even the simplest task may be symptomatic of same.  Feeling as you do can create a lack of confidence and/or self respect; in turn you may be hesitant to interact with people - often the first step in creating friendships. Perhaps you should begin by seeing a mental health professional.  Good luck :)

[AnnaE]

Post again to doctors only; maybe that will get it. Let me know if it doesn't. I would like to see you get help. I just saw your post on the eye care community.

[calamardy]

She recommended me to take sertraline for a while to see if I get the desired effect. Do you think this is a good idea?

Why I don't get answers from the forum's doctors? :(

[Katijanae]

I wonder if you have talked to your doctor about this lack of energy and  inability to focus.  Dopamine is the neurotransmitter in the brain that is responsible for our drive to get things done.  Low levels can cause a lack of energy and an inability to focus.  There are many disorders that are caused by a lack of sufficient dopamine in the brain.  One is depression.  Depression doesn't necesarily mean that you are feeling sad.  It can also cause a person to feel emotionally flat, and disinterested.  There are medications that can help.  
Blessings to you,
Katijanae  

[calamardy]

Thanks for your reply. Well, I'm not depressive, I actually can't remember when was the last time I cried.

For me is like I don't have the energy/focuseness to do the stuff I want to do. I do have projects in my mind, there's a girl I like etc. but I just don't feel in conditions to advance cause I feel so lazy all the time.

I don't even have friends on the university, I'm not inept socially, I actually think I'm fine at social skills, but I don't have the fluidness just to be me. It's like I can't stay focused and feeling fine.

I'm really interested in music, but I just can't play an entire song, I just sit there playing different musical sections and even just make sounds, is hard for me to study, to talk fluiddly...

[ljrowe1966]

I can understand where you come from. I am that way too, only I am 42 years old now. I get stressed out or depressed and then lose all interest in myself and other things. I was diagnosed with bi polar extensive, depression and anxeities. It does get real hard at times and makes you feel so alone. I am going thru psychotherapy, meidaction therapy and will try at times to force myself to get involved. It does take a while to find a area where you are comfortable and feel easy doing everyday normal activities others do and to be involved with others.

Just hang in there and if you just need a friend to talk to or some support feel free to contact me.
Linda

[calamardy]

oh, and it isn't always the same, it's intensity variates.