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saw the dr today and looks like surgery is on
I went to the gyn/onc today and he said that I am a very unusual case (little scary) He said that since the miscarriage He wants to do another PET scan next friday to see if the ovary was showing malignant due to a cyst from preganancy. He seems sure that the ovary is still going to show malignant which means surgery SOON. If the PET scan shows not malignant anymore than he will do just laprascopy (sp.) He did tell me that he had talked to my other dr about the mass in my chest and they still believe that it is not related and they BELIEVE it is not cancer but as you all know you never know for sure until it is removed and biopsied. I am 30 for those of you who dont know and have a 2 year old son. I have never been so scared in my life. It has been one thing after another. I have never been put under and I am more scared about that than anything. I am so scared I wont wake up. I know its silly but I feel like I have to say good bye to my son before I go to surgery. I need some positive thinking books or something - anyone have a suggestions.
Hey,
This is a great forum, isn't it?
I was wondering, too, when the surgery might be? I strongly agree with MickeyVicky regarding getting something to help you stay calm. If the surgery is coming up very soon, something like Zoloft, an antidepressent (an SSRI) may not have time to really get into your system. That can take anywhere from 1 to 4 weeks. Many people like Welbutrin if there is a need for a longer term product. I know there are other things that can help and I have seen suggestions throughout the posts for other calming agents. I was on Zoloft at the time that I got my diagnosis. I had been feeling down (thus the need for an antidepressent) for some time partly due to unaswered questions for about a year as to why I was feeling so crappy (that's the technical term:)
I have often wondered if it is because I was on Zoloft at the time that I was able to SUPER handle all of this. I tend to be somewhat easy going anyway, and I was so sure that there was a problem that when the doc called with the news after an exploratory kind of surgery, well, I was stunned but relieved, if you will, that they found this thing. In my case, too, I had switched doctors because I was told that my doctor said there were NO problems after an ultrasound (US) and luckily for me, the tech had commented that there were two cysts about which she had concerns, otherwise I would not have been aware of their existence. The nurse who called with the US results was in the middle of hanging up the phone as I was asking about the two cysts...."Oh, they're normal, goodbye." "WAIT, Why am I still in so much pain then?" She suggested I call the doctor...I suggested to myself that I run for my life and that is when I found my wonderful Dr. Dave.
Ok, I know I got side-tracked. Anyway, my husband found his outlet about all this by calling every friend I ever had, just about...unbekownst to me...and, I needed to stay calm for our daughter who was in 8th grade at the time. So, don't know how you feel about this, but, just to get you through, it might be helpful to get some help. I called my GYN's office and asked for a sleeping agent thinking that I would be better able to handle things, too, if I was able to get some sleep. I was glad I did that.
By the way, I did go off the Zoloft about five months after the surgery. I would have stayed on it if I'd needed to, but at that point, I needed hormonal help after the hysterectomy more than anything.
Ok. I will sign off. Hope you are doing okay. Mary
This is a great forum, isn't it?
I was wondering, too, when the surgery might be? I strongly agree with MickeyVicky regarding getting something to help you stay calm. If the surgery is coming up very soon, something like Zoloft, an antidepressent (an SSRI) may not have time to really get into your system. That can take anywhere from 1 to 4 weeks. Many people like Welbutrin if there is a need for a longer term product. I know there are other things that can help and I have seen suggestions throughout the posts for other calming agents. I was on Zoloft at the time that I got my diagnosis. I had been feeling down (thus the need for an antidepressent) for some time partly due to unaswered questions for about a year as to why I was feeling so crappy (that's the technical term:)
I have often wondered if it is because I was on Zoloft at the time that I was able to SUPER handle all of this. I tend to be somewhat easy going anyway, and I was so sure that there was a problem that when the doc called with the news after an exploratory kind of surgery, well, I was stunned but relieved, if you will, that they found this thing. In my case, too, I had switched doctors because I was told that my doctor said there were NO problems after an ultrasound (US) and luckily for me, the tech had commented that there were two cysts about which she had concerns, otherwise I would not have been aware of their existence. The nurse who called with the US results was in the middle of hanging up the phone as I was asking about the two cysts...."Oh, they're normal, goodbye." "WAIT, Why am I still in so much pain then?" She suggested I call the doctor...I suggested to myself that I run for my life and that is when I found my wonderful Dr. Dave.
Ok, I know I got side-tracked. Anyway, my husband found his outlet about all this by calling every friend I ever had, just about...unbekownst to me...and, I needed to stay calm for our daughter who was in 8th grade at the time. So, don't know how you feel about this, but, just to get you through, it might be helpful to get some help. I called my GYN's office and asked for a sleeping agent thinking that I would be better able to handle things, too, if I was able to get some sleep. I was glad I did that.
By the way, I did go off the Zoloft about five months after the surgery. I would have stayed on it if I'd needed to, but at that point, I needed hormonal help after the hysterectomy more than anything.
Ok. I will sign off. Hope you are doing okay. Mary
Hey, AnotherKatie came through for you. I was about to submit my post and my daugher who is setting up her new computer (long story) kicked me off line while unhooking and rehooking our router. I have four bags of groceries to put away...so, I will hurry.
I will share concerns that I had when I had my hysterectomy for ovarian cancer in 2000.
I had "zipper" cut from belly button to just above the pubic line. It (the scar) has faded greatly now.
The "Awake" thing had me concerned, too. Not to worry. The guy knew what I was worried about and he said that they have ways of "watching" your brain patterns and they can tell that you are really really asleep.
Pain, well, yes, but nice products to help you with that. And, you know it will not last long. First night was the toughest for me....every twenty minutes I was allowed a dose of heavy pain med and I took advantage every twenty minutes. Wonderfully helpful.
Bathroom. Cathetor. SPELLING??? Oh well. Bad? Not for me. I didn't mind it a bit. Some people do. I liked it. Didn't have to worry about suddenly having to get up.
But, think of the relief to get this thing out of you. And, be proud of yourself that you are taking care of it and not putting it off.
You will tell your son that you will see him in X amount of days and that you will need some snuggling time when you get home, and that you will be tired for a few days, but that you are going to have some nice people help you feel better.
Barbara Coloroso (Parent Educator out of Colorado) might have some good info on what to say to a child when someone is sick...not that you are sick, but I know that some kids worry that they might have to go to the hospital if they get a "Booboo" (trying to spell "owie" ). Do a google on her and see what books pop up. She is great.
I am a licensed parent educator, so if you have specific questions, shoot, and I will see if I have any ideas. I am sure others might too. Don't need a license to be a wonderful parent, it is just that I might have a resource that i am not thinking of. But, you don't want your son to pick up on your anxiety so much that it makes him anxious. Kids sense anxiety. Just trying to stay calm will help you calm down if that makes sense. I do understand what you are saying, though. It is not the easiest thing to do. You do have so much on your plate right now.
Well, I will watch the posts to see how you are doing. Take care. Mary
I will share concerns that I had when I had my hysterectomy for ovarian cancer in 2000.
I had "zipper" cut from belly button to just above the pubic line. It (the scar) has faded greatly now.
The "Awake" thing had me concerned, too. Not to worry. The guy knew what I was worried about and he said that they have ways of "watching" your brain patterns and they can tell that you are really really asleep.
Pain, well, yes, but nice products to help you with that. And, you know it will not last long. First night was the toughest for me....every twenty minutes I was allowed a dose of heavy pain med and I took advantage every twenty minutes. Wonderfully helpful.
Bathroom. Cathetor. SPELLING??? Oh well. Bad? Not for me. I didn't mind it a bit. Some people do. I liked it. Didn't have to worry about suddenly having to get up.
But, think of the relief to get this thing out of you. And, be proud of yourself that you are taking care of it and not putting it off.
You will tell your son that you will see him in X amount of days and that you will need some snuggling time when you get home, and that you will be tired for a few days, but that you are going to have some nice people help you feel better.
Barbara Coloroso (Parent Educator out of Colorado) might have some good info on what to say to a child when someone is sick...not that you are sick, but I know that some kids worry that they might have to go to the hospital if they get a "Booboo" (trying to spell "owie" ). Do a google on her and see what books pop up. She is great.
I am a licensed parent educator, so if you have specific questions, shoot, and I will see if I have any ideas. I am sure others might too. Don't need a license to be a wonderful parent, it is just that I might have a resource that i am not thinking of. But, you don't want your son to pick up on your anxiety so much that it makes him anxious. Kids sense anxiety. Just trying to stay calm will help you calm down if that makes sense. I do understand what you are saying, though. It is not the easiest thing to do. You do have so much on your plate right now.
Well, I will watch the posts to see how you are doing. Take care. Mary
Please ask your doctor for something to calm your anxiety. Worrying at the level you are doing now is not healthy, and can cause strange effects like elevated blood pressure and irregular blood sugar levels. You need to be at the best possible levels, including calm tranquility, before your surgery. Also, if you are a religious person, then please consult with a leader in your religion, who can lend you some perspectives that you might not have thought about at this time.
hi braydensmom, you have great advice and info in the other posts...i have a suggestion for you for your son. This is something you may already do or have already thought of , but I thought I'd putit out there for you just in case
..it may help your son to have fun and stay busy while you are gone. When my kids were real little like yours, they were HUGE fans of treasure hunts (truth be told they STILL get a kick out of them and they are 21 and 14 now!)...you might have fun writing out simple clues and having them ready with a small surprise for your son to discover at the end of each hunt. (new picture book, teensy stuffed animal etc)...just number each clue for the person who will be setting them up - makes it easier! -Preparing this or other things for your son may help YOU to stay busy and get through the waiting.
Best to you that all goes well. nanik
..it may help your son to have fun and stay busy while you are gone. When my kids were real little like yours, they were HUGE fans of treasure hunts (truth be told they STILL get a kick out of them and they are 21 and 14 now!)...you might have fun writing out simple clues and having them ready with a small surprise for your son to discover at the end of each hunt. (new picture book, teensy stuffed animal etc)...just number each clue for the person who will be setting them up - makes it easier! -Preparing this or other things for your son may help YOU to stay busy and get through the waiting.
Best to you that all goes well. nanik
Hello Braydensmom, you poor kid, I was watching anxiously for you to post, as I remembered you told me you were seeing the Dr today. Did he fit you in despite it being Saturday? That was decent of him.
So he feels he can tell it is likely malignant by looking at it? Eeechhh that is terrifying.
Soon I know Dian will be here, sounds rather similar to her experience (detected even before the surgical biopsy) and Sweetie she is doing GREAT!
Being put under is kinda cool,they are all super nice in surgery because they ALL KNOW you are terrified! My experience was... I walked (knees knocking) to the surgical suite, dragged myself onto the table (thinking, is it too late to bolt? and is my bum showing?) They have your arm sticking out on sort of an extension padded board thing. They run an IV, I didn't feel it at all, he was so gentle. The anesthesiologist is right beside you, up by your head, and they are very kind and soothing. And by God they know what they are doing, don't worry. They feel bad for you to have to be there too you know. Then you just breathe gas, they don't smother you with it, they just hold it above your face a ways...you almost feel like you are just going to sleep really fast, it's not that bad at all... then before you know it you are in recovery and they are saying "Wake up". They freeze you like crazy and give you tons of drugs so you don't feel any pain. You WILL wake up I promise and I am SURE YOU WILL BE FINE!
When you leave to go to the hospital, or when you say bye to your little guy, do it fast, it's gonna be awful and you don't want to freak him out. Then just sob your head off in the car, you deserve to. Go for it, don't hold it in. Unless you take the bus.
There is post a few down called "10 days to go" with some suggestions for stuff to do while you wait.
Battalion, do you have any books you recommend? Personally I'd go for National Enquirer, as my brain is useless mush in these circumstances...
How soon is soon for the surgery?
Write as often as you feel like, I work at home on the computer all day (and night!) and I stop by often...
Take Care. We all feel for you so much...(((((big hug)))))
Love and prayers from Katie
So he feels he can tell it is likely malignant by looking at it? Eeechhh that is terrifying.
Soon I know Dian will be here, sounds rather similar to her experience (detected even before the surgical biopsy) and Sweetie she is doing GREAT!
Being put under is kinda cool,they are all super nice in surgery because they ALL KNOW you are terrified! My experience was... I walked (knees knocking) to the surgical suite, dragged myself onto the table (thinking, is it too late to bolt? and is my bum showing?) They have your arm sticking out on sort of an extension padded board thing. They run an IV, I didn't feel it at all, he was so gentle. The anesthesiologist is right beside you, up by your head, and they are very kind and soothing. And by God they know what they are doing, don't worry. They feel bad for you to have to be there too you know. Then you just breathe gas, they don't smother you with it, they just hold it above your face a ways...you almost feel like you are just going to sleep really fast, it's not that bad at all... then before you know it you are in recovery and they are saying "Wake up". They freeze you like crazy and give you tons of drugs so you don't feel any pain. You WILL wake up I promise and I am SURE YOU WILL BE FINE!
When you leave to go to the hospital, or when you say bye to your little guy, do it fast, it's gonna be awful and you don't want to freak him out. Then just sob your head off in the car, you deserve to. Go for it, don't hold it in. Unless you take the bus.
There is post a few down called "10 days to go" with some suggestions for stuff to do while you wait.
Battalion, do you have any books you recommend? Personally I'd go for National Enquirer, as my brain is useless mush in these circumstances...
How soon is soon for the surgery?
Write as often as you feel like, I work at home on the computer all day (and night!) and I stop by often...
Take Care. We all feel for you so much...(((((big hug)))))
Love and prayers from Katie
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