Thank you for a most informative response, Simply Star.
I once read somewhere that you can always enjoy "oral sex"...by sitting on the bed and "talking" about it. (smile)
It's so good to be able to talk and share openly all these questions and answers. Thank you again.
Ok you lovely ladies, it is time for an Anatomy lesson, you all know the song, the head bone connected to the neck bone and so forth. Picture your ovaries connected to the uterus via the fallopian tubes, connected to the cervix, connected to the vagina. In a total hysterectomy, like most of you have had, the ovaries, tubes and uterus and cervix are removed leaving the vagina. There is NO opening from the vagina into the abdomen, that has been closed up after the removal of the cervix. There can be no exchange of fluids. The moisture of the vagina comes from the vagina itself. I found this info on sex after a total hope it helps.
Sex life
After having a hysterectomy, your sex life can be affected both emotionally and physically. One of the main emotions you will encounter is fear. Thinking about initiating sex after such a major surgery leaves many women feeling apprehensive. It is only normal to worry about pain, or hurting yourself. Once your doctor has said that it is okay to initiate sex, you should not worry about hurting yourself because you have had ample time to heal. You should wait for at least 4-6 weeks before sexual intercourse. There may also be a loss of sex drive after surgery. It does not mean that there will be a loss of sex drive forever, but there may be a decline in your sexual desire from what it was before the hysterectomy.
Even though you will have the okay to have sex about 6 weeks after surgery, it may take a few months before sex can be enjoyed. This may be because the abdomen may feel bruised or sore and the vagina may have shrunk. Uncomfortable intercourse can also be a result of vaginal dryness that can be a result of a deficiency of estrogen. This is a common occurrence when the ovaries are removed. Some ways to help increase pleasure during intercourse can be through:
-using erotic reading, pictures, films, change of location, dancing and activities that physically move the pelvic area
more effort in intercourse to push the penis hard against the far end of the vagina in order to stimulate the peritoneum. Deep penetration is helped by the female-astride position or the man-on-top position with the woman's legs on the man's shoulders and pillows under her hips
use of coconut oil or K-Y jelly to lubricate the clitoris and vagina
more experimentation with oral sex or delicate manipulation of the clitoris
learning to use penetration with fingers first to prepare for intercourse with a penis. This helps lubrication occur more rapidly
try using a new pace. Move slower and respect the fact that stimulation may take longer
After having a hysterectomy, it is extremely important to talk with your spouse and communicate what you are going through. Sharing this information will help your partner understand your physical and emotional needs.
I had a hysterectomy and my cervix removed , the top of the vagina is stitched and so nothing can come out i thought .
I'm pretty sure there is no way OVCA cancer cells will come out that route. I wish it was true.
Peace and Love
jun
I am most definitely not laughing at you. I had never even thought about the possiblity of releasing cancer cells through that particular avenue. Thank you for this post. Now I have a new question that will turn my oncs cheeks red. He is so sweet. He has spent the last 38 years with his hands all up in women and he still blushes when I forget to tuck my thongs into a pants pocket instead of just throwing them on top of my pants on the chair or when he is asked a "delicate" question. He will look like he is on fire with this one.
That would be a WONDERFUL advantage to having OvCa. We would spend all day in bed with a little mechanical friend waiting for our husbands or boyfriends to come home. What a treatment. Sure beats chemo!!!!!! ROFLMAO, but not at you.
Thank you again for this post and I will seriously try to find out the answer because now I am curious. Really, it kind of makes sense, since everything else up there seems to come out that way.
Jan
My understanding is the wetness/lubrication you experience during arousal is from the Bartholin's glands that are just inside the opening of the vagina (located before the hymen back when we had one). I can't imagine that any cells from the ovaries or higher up in the female organs would be released during an orgasm. Brings another question to mind - what about during the menstrual cycle or just after? Anyone have the answer to this?
Another thought - even if you released some malignant cells, what harm would they do to your partner? Cancer isn't contagious.