marine with possible ptsd???

[heatherlynn22]

my husband is a marine. he was in iraq for 9 months and saw some terrible things. i don't know what because he refuses to talk about them. he still wakes up at night in a cold sweat screaming and crying. after that the only thing i can do to even come close to comforting him is just hold him and tell him it's ok. since he's been home (he got out in october) he's been getting angrier and angrier. every little thing sets him off. and it's not just him being mad and storming off or yelling. he screams, yells and throws things. he punches holes in walls and breaks doors. thing is he wasn't like this before he went to iraq. prior to his deployment he was a sweet, loving and caring man. never raised his voice to me. he never even got mad at me. i have a bit of a memory problem. when i was 18 i was in a horse riding accident and have permanent memory issues. now if i forget something instead of him being understanding like he used to be he screams at me. telling me how stupid i am and what not. i don't know exactly what the symptoms of ptsd are.....but could his anger issues be from that? and if it is ptsd...or even if not does anyone have any suggestions to help me convince him to go to counseling? or get help for it.

[heatherlynn22]

i'll let you know. i'm going to sit him down and have a talk with him tonight.

[margypops]

Time has come to get tough Heather, have to get him to seek help this may be the point if he is showing remorse when you tell him you will leave if he doesnt get help..this wont be the last time he strikes you if he doesnt  get help, this is that defining moment, "Get help or I go"tell him, he needs to get cracking and get a job aswell, anything will do hes in the house too much needs to be filling his mind with positive thought. Be tough on him and let us know if he will go for help..

[heatherlynn22]

i actually lost my temper tonight with him during one of our fights and it was the worst it's ever  been. he actually hit me. he's never done that before. it was hard but not hard. open handed and on the arm right below my shoulder. i think i was more shocked then anything. i just looked at him with this disgusted look and started crying. i went into our bedroom and he came in. he tried to hug me but i just pushed him away and told him not to touch me. he started crying. i felt horrible. so ....i held him instead. i think he's starting to realize he has a problem. the fight started tonight because "i'm to motherly" to our 6 month old sons. i looked at him and said well that's because i'm their f*$%ing mother!!!  i don't think he understands the stress i'm under from the sh!t he does. him not helping with the kids or around the house, his attitude, anger and everything. it's finally taking it's toll on me. and i just lost it tonight. up until he hit me i was screaming at him.

[margypops]

I found that also heather, now I simply back off and get on with my life , I found if I argued back it escallated the situation, so why do that to your self, I will stand up to him if he threatens me,  but if its simply an arguement, I walk away...

[heatherlynn22]

oh no no no. i don't get angry with him. that just makes him even madder and makes the fights 10 x's worse. i've gotten mad before. not anymore.

[fary]

sorry sorry i beg ur pardon i meant wife.sorry.at tymes our cortex does strange things