Hello. My husband started suffering from chronic tension type headaches, day after day soon after waking up, for 8 months now. We have had nearly 35 visits to his primary care physician, two neurologist, and a psyco-therapist. He has tried 29 different prescriptions, all trials to see if they managed the pain, CT scans, MRIs, bloodwork, and various x-rays. All tests have come back normal and the doctors say it is psycosomatic pain. It is real enough to him, but has no identifiable cause. The situation has become nearly unbarable, for both of us. He lives in constant pain with only a tricyclic antidepressant which lowers the pain about 25%, and one prescription for Loratab which helped for a month and then he became tollerant so it isn't worth taking anymore, and no one will give him anything higher because of fears associated with opiates.
We had some success with Xanax at a high dosage, however the side effects left my husband useless, stumbling around and needing constant supervision. He was constantly angry and verbally abusive while on it, and it couldn't have been farther from the real him. His quality of life suffered too much even if the pain was lessened. After watching a video I took one night (because he never recalls what happened) he told his doctor he will never touch the stuff again, and the doctor hasn't given us any alternatives to try.
His primary care physician referred him to a 'very respected' pain management clinic in our area with five doctors. One week before his appointment, the office called and canceled his appointment and told him "not to bother since they don't have services to offer him." We called and called for a week and they were insistant that his doctor should treat him and they had nothing to offer him. They even told his primary care doctor who referred him that they refused to take him on as a client and treat him... becuase they couldn't do anything for him. They didn't even read his medical history! There isn't anything either of us won't do to help him, but three pain management doctors later, and we still can't get an appointment. It is like they are afraid to treat him! His doctor is trying to get him in, but even he encounters resistence with the doctors saying they will not take him on since they have no services to offer a patient 'in his condition'. My husband's doctor does not have any experience in pain management, which is why he doesn't feel comfortable taking my husband's treatment any further, but he also knows he needs help. We just are not finding any. Both neurologists have tried breaking the pain cycle with various medications and taking him off all medications, changing his diet, nothing worked and they too have thrown up their hands and quit. Our therapist still continues to help us both mentally, but she is rather expensive and we can only see her once every two months.
I am so tired of being helpless. I can't do anything to make the pain stop. For a month now there has been no relief I can offer for the pain, no pills other than the tricyclic which leaves my husband with moodswings and unable to engage in any intimate activities. We had planned on starting our family, but it isn't possible like this. His depression has worsened which I'm sure doesn't help the pain, and the fustration of seeking help only to have the door slammed in your face, he doesn't mean to take it out on me, but he can't help it when I'm the only person he really sees. Our friends and family don't understand what is going on, and most are just exasperated with the constant problems so they don't want to be around. He thinks everyone has given up on him and that I'm no help to him no matter how much I care and love him.
Is there something else that we are missing in dealing with these pain specialists? I've read so much about multi prong approaches and alternative testing for these type headaches, but I don't know how or where to find this type of help. We aren't asking for drugs and whatever tests they require, homework to do, we will happily do it if they would give us a chance. I understand how hard it is for a doctor to look at someone who is physically normal in every way with no health problems, to just treat them for pain, but it has reached a point that I worry about him taking his own life if we can't find some way to put his life back together. I've been with this man since the 8th grade, 15 years together and I know there is something very wrong with his condition and what it is doing to his life. He isn't making it up and if he could make it stop on his own and work it out in his head, he would. Neither of us know what to do anyone.
Any support or suggestions would be so welcomed. I just feel like I've run out of ideas and am forced to stand back and watch both our lives get ripped apart by this.