Mother puts son in bath

[Doglover1992]

My partner was 18 when he had a knee injury. He had an operation where his knee had to be bandaged  but not get wet, so he had to bath with one leg out the bath. I found out that his mum helped him in the bath, while there is nothing wrong with. Then i found out that she did it while he was fully naked, he didnt have anything to cover him up or even try to, and she did it without asking him to cover up his bits. i would of thought as a normal male you would not want your mother seeing your parts at all, surely you would be mortified if your mum saw your parts, and would cover them up with something such as shorts which you were able to take off in the bath, this didnt just happen once it was for 2 weeks everyday.  And surely the mum would want them covered if she was to help him in the bath, i know i wouldnt want to see my sons bits! Not just that if hes showering she will come into the bath room and get her towl, he say 'she didnt see anything' but thats not the point you dont go in the bathroom while your adult son is in the shower. And she also doesnt mind him seeing her in her underware now and hes 24, thats a bit weird to me, if shes getting changed hes allowed to go in her room. Even if hes on the toliet having a number 2 or stood there weeing with the door open she will just walk past as normal not even ask for the door to be shut. Some times theres being close but thats being to close surley. I would never dream of seeing my soons penis especially past the age of 16! Is it me over reacting or is this a bit weird. I  know theres nothing going on in that way as i have asked but still seeing your soon naked like which isnt an accident surley is not right?

[ShinyDiamond88]

I dated a guy that had this exact sort of situation going on with his mother. She would  just walk into our room with no pants but her underwear on, if my bf was using the bathroom she would try to talk to him then, after a shower while getting dressed in his room she would try to barge in..I don't care how "comfortable" the relationship may be the bottom line is it is not healthy for a mother to not let her son have privacy like every human being on earth needs at some point...now if someone is hurt and needs help with bathing for a short period of time that's kinda a different situation as long as it doesn't go on forever. And if you care about your partner then u have every right to be protective also and want to know what's going on....you're the one in a romantic relationship and ultimately spending your life with your partner. I understand the "parents" point of view but again..all grown adults need their privacy & especially when your all living together boundaries need to be set...has nothing to do with being jealous. But lastly the most important thing is to talk to your partner about it and tell them how that makes you feel and if he loves you he will put your mind at ease.I hope you had better luck than I did sweetie.

[dd357]

look i'm a mother of two 16 yr ol boy and 14 yr ol dauther, we only have one small bathroom and while im on the pot my dog constantly barging in knocking the door open.
its got to the point i hardly bother to close the door, and in a family of 4 our small bathrooms a very busy place, and to boot our shower stall doors are clear as a bell
in spite of all this, I try to behave causally though I must say my son is developing nicely.
it probably best if you try and lighten up some

[babygirl6152]

Your baby is always your baby.
Try to forget about it.

Your feelings are what they are. They are valid.
BUT
Their feelings are also valid. In their minds they are innocent as can be.
All she sees in the tub is her little guy

[specialmom]

Dear, do you have a child?  When you've given birth to someone, you don't see them in a perverse way.  My nephew was just in the hospital.  In a hospital gown with no underwear on and he would get up when he had to use the bathroom.  I left the room and my sister helped him.  He is 16,  What was she doing?  For heavens sake, she was tending to her injured son.  Nothing sexual at all.  We take care of our kids.  I sincerely doubt she was thrilled to have him naked in front of her but the kid needed baths, right?  So, she was helping him.  

[Youngwildfree1414]

That is her son. She is a mother helping her son after an operation. Yeah he could cover it up but uhm its a bath. It isnt like she is engaging in anything sexual. Are u sure this isnt just a jealousy issue u have?

[4slenderthread]

Hello there!  

   I have to say that I agree with Shaayna and she said what she had to say very well. While every culture in the world has their own ' ways,' individual families have their own way of living as well. If your partner (and his mom) don't have the same modesty issues as other families, that is simply the way it is. Granted, it wasn't the way I was raised or the way I raised my girls ... but each family is unique with their beliefs. I believe that nudity is perfectly fine. It's all about the 'eye of the beholder' which makes it inappropriate.
   If you and your partner have a healthy, open relationship, then go ahead and talk with him about this. I would be careful not to speak as though you are judging him or his mother,etc. Perhaps a conversation with him may ease your concerns - because something is definitely bothering you. I wish you the very best. Take care!

[shaayna]

I am trying to figure out what the problem is here. Okay so you think that a mother seeing her sons privates is bad. I look at it as a relationship between a child  that has no boundaries. I think it is great that they are able to look past the nakedness of each other and that is exactly what it is. If they are both comfortable with it then that is great. It would be bad if he hated that his mom saw him that way and she did it anyway and vice versa. You say you would not be comfortable that is you but not them. It surely does not mean anything horrible is going on.