My brother suffered from a similar problem. His tidy whities were too small and he was embarrassed to talk to my mom and his dad wasn't in the picture. One day we were at the store and he simply demanded boxers . . . pairs much bigger than my mom and I thought necessary. But he was much happier after that. Has his father talked to him about his undie issues?
Hello,
I am sure this is frustrating for you. I wonder if he is having some sort of sensitivity to your detergent, fabric softener, or if he is very sensitive to the feeling of some pairs of underwear. I am guessing that maybe the dirty ones feel softer or less tight? If he is sensitive to perfumes in the laundry detergents, this might make him reluctant to put on the clean pairs. If he is sensitive to fabric textures, you may wish to let him pick out some new comfy underpants.
As far as managing the behavior, a psychologist, counselor, or social worker can help you make an effective behavior plan. In the meantime, you can take more control over the situation and remove the dirty pair from the hamper each night.At his age, the social consequences for smelling bad can be unpleasant, so it might be in his best interest for you to take over for a while.
Best Wishes
Rebecca Resnik