Do you think an unplanned baby...

[Liberty7]

Do you think an unplanned pregnancy makes or breaks a relationship I wanna know what you guy's think

[Latrice414]

There is truth in everyones post.  It depends, on the two people, my son is 13, i dated his father for 3 years, i was not really caring for the relationship and felt this guy is not the one, in telling him i wanted to break up, a month later i didnt get my period(WoW) i was preggo with a guy i did not want to be with, he wanted to get married and be together, for all the reasons i had, i choose not to get back with him. The pregnancy was not gona make or break the relationship. Im thankful that he is apart of our childs life.

Now my current relationship(fiance) we got preggo in april(ended in m/c) he was in shock and was like this is the wrong time for a baby, im not done with school yet, i was graduating the next month so i thought it was a perfect time. But we continued on with our normal lives, the only thing that changed was 3 weeks later he was excited and looking forward to being a father, i guess he had to overcome the shock(being that was his first child)

If your in a relationship that is growing and looking toward the future i dont think it would be a problem, like someone else said, if the guy is in it for sex, he may just jet like brett
Jet Brett   Brett to the Jets lol i jus had to put that in there, im still bitter Brett Farve went to the jets:(   Oh yea, you do have those guys who may be in it for sex, but learned some family morals and may not want to further the relationship but will take care of his responsibility.

[Tracy21]

like everyone says it depends. when i feel pregnant it wasn't planned and i was only 15 yrs old and i really did try and work it out with my partner who was also 15 yrs old but we only lasted until i was 17. when i feel pregnant at 15 i wasn't to sure if i should keep the baby but my partner said if you abort the baby don't come near me so i decided because i thought he was going to be there for me i would keep the baby but once my so was born he was an ******* so after a year i got rid. my partner of now 3 yrs my daughter wasn't planned but we had her and we are stronger than ever so it really all depends on they guy you pick im just 1 of the unlucky to have a bad ex and lucky to have a great partner now

[shadowserpent]

i got accidently pregnant 4 months into my relationship(prozac and birth control dont mix and the docs never told me) and my relationship is wonderful! but im really lucky, because the man im with is the best relationship ive ever had, and the best guy ive ever met. it depends on the relationship and the way you get along, and espiecilly on the guy, good guys will usually step up, but remeber just because you are gonna have a baby doesnt measn you should be together, i stressed this point to my boyfriend when i found out, because being with someoen just for the kid never goes well, but i guess i got lucky this time and have a good guy whos there for me and the baby!

[JoyRenee]

I want to add that marriage isn't always the answer either. Sometimes it's just better for all parties involved to be great parents, but necessarily "together". Obviously that is a choice a couple has to make for themselves.

[gokuangel]

I think the relationship is what it is!! If the guy is serious where he really does love you it wont matter things will keep going and you will have the baby but if he wasnt serious then it will end no matter what!! I think guys (and girls) kinda know from the beginning that the relationship is serious and that they want to be with the person or not! I do think some guys *adjust* to the idea of marriage and kids but i dont always think thats a good thing! I think they need to on board by themselves!

[JoyRenee]

Well my then-boyfriend (now husband) and I got pregnant before we were married. It wasn't exactly a planned pregnancy. We were already planning on getting married. We bought the rings, planned a wedding, I bought a beautiful gown (before I got too big) and we've been together 4 years in Oct. We have 2 beautiful little girls.

I think it really depends on the level of commitment. If the guy is just in it for sex and finds out, "I'm pregnant!" he might tuck tail and run. Some men feel a sense of obligation and others have no problem running out the door. But if you're in a strong relationship, with trust, understanding and open communication, it's possible that an unplanned pregnancy is no big deal. It's just the next chapter in your life.

[diva_lorri]

It depends on each relationship...
If you have a strong relationship based on mutual respect and admiration, appreciation, honesty, good communication, good morals and values etc... basically if your relationship seems to get better every minute of every day and you both want and crave for this baby you have created then you have a good foundation for it to make your reltionship.
If your relationship is based on lies, trickery, manipulation, hostility, deceipt and either of you hold any resentment toward this pregnancy, each other or the child then I would say it will most certainly break a relationship.

All relationships take alot of work and have there ups and downs though no matter how good they are...

My husband and I have a brilliant relationship and we believe its because we never sleep on an argument or leave the house in a rage - we resolve it first and make up.
*****You never know if that will be the last time you see that person!
7years of this and we are stronger than ever and we were young like you when we got together.

Bes of luck xx

[pinkbelle]

the only thing I can add to this is that this happened to me and now that our beautiful daughter is here it hasnt made or broke our relationship.. we are still the same two people that fell in love over a year ago but now we have a part of us with us in our daughter just more love in our house i guess = ]

[ziggysgrl0724]

it really depends on the state of the relationship before the pregnancy and how the guy feels about having a baby.  If the relationship wasnt on its way to engaged or married, and the guy wasnt totally up for a baby, I would say it usually breaks it.  Most guys will harbor some sort of "you did this on purpose to trap me" mentality....that will cause resentment.  Then there is after the baby is born...if the guy wasnt 100% on board with a baby when it happened, he might not step up to be the father that you want him to be...he might be a little too selfish or a little too immature...and you will get tired of it very quickly....I went though it.  Now this isnt all guys....if you guys were pretty serious, and he isnt seeing this baby as the "end of his life" then it could work out, sometimes people have a nice way of surprising us!