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Law?
Wondering if anyone here knows anything about the law...? I'm tired of my baby daddy just being high all the time and selling it and growing it etc. what can I do about this? I'm sick of it. I definitely don't want my daughter to have a father like that.
depending on how far along you are you may still have some time to think about it. You have gotten a lot of great advice on the matter but Ultimately nobody can make that decision for you, its just something that you're going to have to figure out on your own. I know it's hard but I'm sure you'll do a great job picking out what is best for your child and yourself. :) good luck!
This is what confuses me. Doing it makes sense. And also not doing it makes sense. I have no gut instinct. I'm stuck in the middle.
Sweetie drugs r the problem. i deal w this to. I hsvent had help in 4 days now cuz my babys father has been getting high. I c in the future me being granted full custody if he doesnt shape up. I love my kid more than i love him. nd ive dealt w his ups nd downs for 3 years now. Its mentally torturing.
Honey do what u think is right. But having a paper trail will help you when u go to court in the future. If it was me I wouldn't think twice about it. if it deals with the safety of my child. I would file a report. I get the ladies saying it's just weed but when u are having a baby it's time to nut up and grow up. Think he fights for custody he won't get it but he might get visits. And what if hes able to get unsupervised visits? It only takes two seconds for something to happen. :( follow ur gut and do what u think is right
And Yes if it were me I would turn him in so that you can have a case built against him. If he isn't willing to change now more than likely he won't in the future. Drugs is something I never want my children to be around. I used to smoke I've did coke and other drugs. I was addicted to pain killers for a long time. It took forever to clean up my act. I know that that is not a life I would ever want for my children and if their dad were doing this he would suffer the consequences it's not fair you are taking all responsibility and all he cares about is staying high. Don't risk it.
If you don't turn him in I wouldn't let my child go to his house because when he does get busted you don't want to be there or your daughter. Your daughter would wind up in temporary Foster care and if your there you both will go to jail. Because you are there. And you could be charged for not turning him in. Stay away from drugs it doesn't matter if it's hardcore or not it's still illegal and you can get in big trouble.
I think if he's not going to be on the birth certificate and you're not with him...you should just let it be. The law will eventually catch up to him. In my opinion, I feel as if you still care about him...well at least his wellbeing, and that's why you haven't called. Plus would you want that on your conscience if you sent him to jail and something happened to him in there? I understand it's not right that he does that...but you don't have to be around him. If all he cares about is drugs then I doubt he will bother trying to fight for his child...especially since he's not doing anything now. Just keep her from him. Who knows he may actually shape up and get his life on track and actually want to be a good father. If you truly believe in your heart that he can't change...don't worry about it. Good luck!
Finally something with some sense! Thank you. That was a very clear answer, kmama2011 you're right. I will do it.
I dont agree with anyone saying ” its just weed” my friends babys dad was selling and he got his place broke into his son saw him get shot and beat up bcuz people he sold to robbed them of their cash and weed. Regardless of the drug it is still not the right enviornment for children. And just bcuz he doesnt get custody doesnt mean he wont get visitation. If you hit him with child support expect him to come back with wanting visitation. The judge may see it your way and not allow him to take the baby for visits but then again he might say well why all the sudden is he not suitable when he was doing all this before and you did nothing about it. Be ready for a judge to question your motive for all the sudden making it an issue when the child is born. Its not about snitching you have to start setting up a case now not when he fights or else you may not have a leg to stand on. Please consider what im saying ive been through this before I know how judges can be on stuff like this. They think the mom is just saying stuff to make the dad not be able to get visitation bcuz it never became an issue until breaking up and the baby was born. You need documented evidence not word of mouth
Blicious19: But the question I've been asking this entire time is do something about it NOW like maybe pick up a report that he traffics it? or wait until he fights for custody? Because of course I'm not adding him to the certificate or his last name.
id say make annonimous tip i doesnt matter if its snitching its for ur daughters sake and his. and its ILLEGAL
Okay, we were a couple back in June. Broke up mid June. My daughter was conceived on June 12. When I found out I was 2 months pregnant there was nothing I could do.
If any of y'all had a baby daddy who put weed over their child you'd probably be more considerate. He spent 200 dollars on a machine to grow his pot. It's a huge cubicle that comes with chemicals. But can't buy a car seat or stroller or anything. Wth? For the millionth time. I was on birth control. When I got pregnant we weren't together. When I found out, I repeat, we were not together. I don't know how many times I have to say it. I didn't chose this man. I chose a hardworking man and we were happy on base until he made a bad decision and got caught. The reason I left was because instead of learning a lesson he saw it as a reason to continue now that he wasnt working for the government.
I wouldnt call the cops.. im sure when u decided to be with this guy he was doing it? If he wants to do all that let him do his drugs and just leave him. Tell him if he wants to see his baby he has to straighten up. Trust me, getting the cops involved esp drug related with child custody and all can get really reallyUGLY. You know whats right for your baby and if he cant buck up n do the right thing, leave him and file for child support.. this is just my opinion but good luck in whatever u decide to do
I've tried. I've pleaded. Said if he didn't wanna be involved then to sign his rights over. He said "no"
I know you want a father for your baby but I think I would try to get him to sign over his rights
Hopefully, proud mommy. But if he didn't man up after losing benefits, a career and a wife then I don't know what's his breaking point because this baby isn't making him change his mind either.
I didn't meet him this way. I met him while he was still serving. I didn't know his weed problem was this bad because again the service has a no drug policy. When he got kicked out. I was baffled and upset but supportive. When he didn't change and use that as motivation to get on with a better life. He went downhill too many times I suggested professional help and he said I was crazy, etc. when I left him was when I found out I was pregnant. I was on birth control. This isn't the man I would've chosen at all. I'm not upset because he isn't the man I "love" I stopped being in love when he was unfaithful to me and a compulsive liar. He insisted we stay together and I refused. There is no emotional ties here. I just want my daughter to know she has a father and i want him to feel equally responsible financially and emotionally for her- but not if he's gonna be a bad role model for her.
U met him,that way? Thats bcuse u accepted him,with all the marijuana involved.now u having a child things get clearer,well let him,know how u feel nd let him kno that if he continues his habits u are not gonna accept him in ur life anymore...is the habits really,wats bothering u abt him,or do u jst feel he is nt the man u love.? Look more within ur feelings goodluck with ur precious bby
Hopefully he will man up once the baby is here so you don't have to go through any of that
That's the sad part. He'd probably pass the drug test. He has ways... He got away with it for 10 years in the marines.
I would say so I would hate for you to lose the baby like my friend did I doubt you would have problems with him trying to get custody he probably want even stay sober enough to go to court and go through drug testing to prove he can be a fit parent
Thank you proud mommy. That is very very helpful. So wait this out and child support it is. :)
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