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Law?
Wondering if anyone here knows anything about the law...? I'm tired of my baby daddy just being high all the time and selling it and growing it etc. what can I do about this? I'm sick of it. I definitely don't want my daughter to have a father like that.
Call in an anonymous tip if he's growing it and report heavy traffic in and out or something
If you live with him and have both your names on the lease I wouldn't call it in until you're living somewhere else.. There's no proof that that stuff isn't yours
We don't live together. He lives on his own. I have screenshots of his stuff. And him smoking it. And etc. I'm just sooooooo tired of him that I don't wanna do this out of spite and regret it. But then I don't wanna have my daughter near this immature man. He is 27 but doesn't act like it. He smokes all day and smokes till he's asleep or just incoherent. It's ridiculous.
I don't think you should I know you're tired of it trust me my nd does it 24/7 and it does get annoying but you shouldn't do something out of spite because think about it you're probably gonna regret it when he's not there and he's on jail or whatever. Just try to make him spendmore time with his cchild so he can be away from that, that's what I do.hope this helps
Well my daughter isn't here yet. But he just says things and doesn't comply. It's bad. Literally one minute he's talking crap to me. 10 mins later he's asking me what's up? Like what?
I think you should notify the police. It's not out of spite, its for the well being of your daughter and that should be enough to go through with it. As long as you've sat him down and said shape up or else this is going to happen and he still hasn't changed then there's no reason why he'd change later on. I mean, come on, 27 is a little old to be high all day like a high schooler; your daughter doesn't need that in her life.
Don't call in a anonymous tip on him. That's a snitchy shiesty move. Smh. Best thing I could recommend is you put your foot down. Grow some tough skin. If its your house tell him to leave. Then if he doesn't leave say you will call. He still is the father of your child. If its his house. You get up and leave. He will soon respect you and your reasoning. Be stern with his hardheaded *** but don't go about tipping him off. You woman enough to let him know what's up and if he doesn't get it. Do what's best for you and your baby, put him on child support whatever. you'll be fine honey! Just be patient with yourself and examine your surroundings
He'll get caught. That's never a promising job. Your the promising guardian. But I wouldn't stoop that low. Handle yours before creating a bad atmosphere with your baby daddy
It may be "snitchy" but when he served 10 years in the marines and lost his career over drugs- you'd assume he'd shape up. Now my daughter has no benefits because he's an idiot. I'm 4 months pregnant and although she isn't here. I don't wanna take the chance of dealing with him high and letting strangers walk in and out of the house for weed or cocaine. He is 27. Not 12. I told him weed wasnt the issue. The issue is that he can't prioritize. And the fact that I have been telling him to just put it second is already giving him too much credit. Weed isn't the problem here. It's him not knowing how to handle himself because of it. Like I said I don't wanna do it out of spite. I just don't need that in my life. And I can block him off now. But what about when he fights for custody?
See I'm thinking its just tree. Cocaine is a hard drug. I wouldn't give him the option. Fighting for custody. HA let him. His record says enough. I think you have all the right motives but If hems being irresponsible. Id just omit myself out of the picture and once he see's I'm not playing. He'll know what's real. You know your duties is to make sure your child is prepared to enter this world around a healthy environment. your right, he is grown. And he knows right from wrong. so let him fight!! I guarantee with a rap sheet and dirty **** he'll just be digging himself a whole. Your life is centered around that baby now. Not him. You'll be good boo!
I just really need answers. I'm lost. I did everything for this man. From staying with him while he served. To deployments. To being kicked out for drugs. To struggling financially. Etc. and this is what I get. A "I'll quit when she's around and I'll prepare when she's born". How immature. I'm not asking for the world or for us to rekindle. No emotional ties. Just for him to show he wants to be involved. Not just say so. And weed has held him back.
Thank you! You've been the most helpful ADYNASTY. You're right. Just wait till she's here and let him fight for custody if he truly wants it.
You can't make a man want to do anything. Just look at all that and use it as a reminder in saying. Either you stop now or stay out my way. You don't want to deal with when the baby is here. And you don't need to deal with it now. because its stressing you. Turn to family, close friends. The more you do the stronger you become. You remind me of my sister. She went through the same thing. You just got to keep your head up and remember that little one is your motivation
You know, I've tried. It seems much easier said than done. I'm so glad you're support system is your husband. I wish he could just straighten out. And I can acknowledge everything and agree that you're right. But I'm not as strong as you are. I tend to cry for him alot. And things just don't get easier
Omg I didn't know there was cocaine involved. I wouldnt bring my child around that it's not a safe environment with the coke or him growing weed. Do what you have to do for you and that baby. When I found out my bd was doing coke under the same roof me and his daughter were living in I told him I wouldn't allow it and wouldn't stay there , after doing it for a whole day while I was gone he agreed and he said sorry and I emptied all the coke in the bathroom . I think letting him know and showing him that you won't put up with it specially around your daughter he might change. I hope this helps and good luck
Girl im a crybaby too! cry in the morning, cry in the evening. ive just seen and been through some mess myself and refuse to let it put me back at the bottom. I promise you'll get that urge. every woman does! I got faith in you! hell if you need to cry, cry!lol he is the father of your child so it is understandable. but both of you will come to a realization that its not about you anymore. but the hell with him! if your tired and fed up and exhausted because you leaning on false hope. please believe you'll get up the drive to say, "this is it!"
I wish this thing let us post screenshots lol. I've tried. Believe me. I have. Nothing does it. Don't get me wrong. I've done weed and cocaine myself so I insist it's his behavior on these things that keep him from being coherent or rational. Weed used to relax me not make me stupid. But this guy just smokes like a chimney. And he's an alcoholic. Went to AA meeting back in 2005 and 2010 and they clearly didnt work. He has money for his drugs and party and girls but not to buy me anything for the baby.
Can I borrow your mentality for a day? Lol. I am tried. Stressed. Enough is enough. I want him to be involved so badly that I can't do anything that I'll regret. I'm scared....But then again that's me cutting myself short. While he's happy and I'm miserable. I'd be excusing everything he's said or done to make me feel this way- if I just let him be involved with no real responsibility I'm the dumb one.
It's not snitchy or out of spite, it's illegal! And better to have it documented so you appear more responsible or he will be able to fight for 50-50 or main custody. So I don't think it would be bad, he is old enough now to grow up and prioritize no one should have to make any excuses for that
My friend is a cop and he called me not too long ago. I asked him and he suggested I filed a report for an investigation so that later if he does fight for custody I'll have documentation that I'm only being a responsible parent. He told me to sleep on it. But I'm scared.
everybody has done something illegal. honey lex do whats best for you if u feel like snitching... like I said.. then do it. only person your looking after is the unborn. his ******* can try for 50-50 but with his record. he wont get to far but if he goes as far as to trying to get custody, hell he may just give all that **** up and give your family another chance.but its the judges decision and just as im telling you is all about your child. there gonna have that same outlook. im all about family. but don't go in it blinded either. but either way allll of this is your decision. setting him up is coward unless he's at ur spot disrespecting your household and then you call the 12 up.
Hey if that's what ur friend said I'd go for it if for some reason cps would get involved and found out u knew about all the drugs and still subjected a new born, infant, toddler, any child to it u could be found unfit aswel do I'd document it for later
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