What are the chances of another ...

[HeatherLF16]

Hello Everyone,
I am 27 years old, and I joined this site after I had my first miscarriage at the end of June.  I was 11 weeks along, but the baby had died at 8 weeks.  This was not a planned pregnancy being I had just gotten off the pill the month I conceived after being on it for 10 years.  However, we were devestated.  This month my husband and I decided we will give it a try again.  I have a few days to go before I am due for my cycle.  I know we had sex on the days I was most fertile so there is a good chance I am pregnant (I am not one to take my temps or use ovulation kits... never had a problem getting pregnant and I don't want that kind of pressure).  If I am not that is OK too.  But, I can't help but feel anxiety about my last experiance.  I think if I am actually pregnant I am going to be a nervous wreck.  My question is what are the odds of miscarriage again? How many people have had multiple miscarriages? Docs say I am 100% healthy and it was chromosome abnormality.  I can't help but be negative and think it is going to happen again and I will have a hard time with having children.  Any pointers to ease my nerves?  I know stressing can't be good!  

[mkba1323]

I know how you feel as well i had a miscarriage when i was 16 weeks it was so devestating for me and took a long time to get over and sometimes im not sure im completly healed.... then after that i had an ectopic and had to have my left fallopian tube token out so i gave up and decided i just probably wouldnt have kids, then 2 months later i got pregnant i know have a wonderful baby boy that is going to be 2 next month!!! and iam currently pregnant 24 weeks and im having a girl and so happy dont worry just dont give up... and dont get stressed out to much ok take care and good luck...

[HeatherLF16]

Thank you both for your words of encouragment.  I love this site and the fact that you can find others going through the same thing as you.  I am currently two days late, but have had a negative test today (this happend to me last time I did not get a postive until about a week late).  So, I am hoping for the best but still expecting the AF.  I guess it is normal to feel nervous and worried regardless of your experiance?  Just part of being or trying to be a parent!
Actually, I am more nervous about my sisters pregnancy.  She had one miscarriage, now has a five year old, a two year old, now five weeks pregnant and they cannot find the heartbeat and getting her HCG levels checked tomorrow :(  I hope she is alright!  
I am sorry for your loss KeyD and luvenmybabies I wish you the best of luck.  

[KeyD]

I know how you feel, I had a devastating ectopic and am scared that I will have another and then not be able to have another baby, but after the ectopic I had an uneventful pregnancy. I don't think I was ever not scared during my pregnancy that something would go wrong again until after I was holding DD. Good Luck

[luvmybabes]

No it isn't good to stress about it. Some people have on misscarriage and then go on to have another healthy pregnancy. Some women have multiple misscarriages and I am not sure why. I guess all I can say is relax and enjoy your pregnancy...I know it is hard not to worry but try not to because it isnt good for the baby. I think every mother worries to some extent though. I find myself worrying about this pregnancy even though I have had two healthy pregnancies and no misscarraiges beofre. Good luck. Keep me informed.