What's wrong?, why can't I get pregnant?

[Curious6789]

My husband and I are TTC, and its just not working. I know when I am ovulating, we have sex, every other day (what I was told to do), but still, not pregnant. These are my last period dates, July7/08....June15/08....may23/08....april21/08......We started to try in Nov, but my periods were 47, 48, days apart....now, they are getting closer, and closer.
Why isn't anything happening????

[Leximama93]

I would say for anyone ttc and having a hard time with it to get their thyroids checked. It's something that if it's just slightly off then it can effect becoming pregnant and it's something that is so common in women there's a good chance that that could be the problem. We weren't ttc but after being on levothyroxine for only one month we were pregnant! It's such an easy fix and worth looking into :)

[Naz18]

Me and my bf have been trying to concieve for over a year now, i have irregular periods, but have been to the dr and had an ultrasound to see if i have pcos, but all of my results have come back negative. Im young and healthy and dont know why i cant concieve??

[Sazy26]

I've been ttc for 7 months now and am pretty desperate. I am young (26 years) but my gyn told me to start trying because there are other probs for us. I have had a letz procedure in Feb 2002 because I had CIN3 cervical cells. They removed a lot of my cervix. I also have a history of having very painful periods whilst off the pill. The last 3 months have been particularly bad, with cycles all over the place, bad clotting (sorry for too much information), and my last test on monday said that I haven't ovulated this month. I'm devastated. I haven't been stressed but since I found that out now it just seems hopeless. I fell pregnant once whilst on the pill 18months ago and had to terminate because I was on some medication that causes deformation. We also have the problem that my partner who is 30 can only seem to have sex every 3rd or 4th day... he's had his spern tested and is fertile. My dr told me to have sex when I'm ovulating, but sometimes he just can't, even with viagra. I'm seeing a specialist on Aug 15th and don't even know what to expect or if they can do anything. I've been sent home from work for 2x days because I just can't seem to get it together. I feel so guilty because others have tried for years and seem stronger than I am. I've got a dr appt today and am thinking maybe if I just ask him for a referal to have a hysterectomy then maybe I won't want a baby anymore. This is so hard... I really really feel for you all out there and my thoughts and prayers are with you all. Believe me I know how hard it is when people around you are all having babies.. some of my friends don't even want theirs! Oh what a strange world...

[steve130]

my wife and i have been tring for 3.5 years and nothing .we seen a dr who has tested us and we are normal couple with no problems.we have done countless iui nothing did ivf and it didn't work with as they said prefect eggs which went to stage 5 of the transfer .we are tring on our own but after 3 years getting harder and harder when everyone around us family and work women are getting pregnant ..my wife having  a hard time with this so am i .nothing the dr can do for us since they said we are fine no issues

[JoyRenee]

Curious, I've been TTC our third baby going on SIX MONTHS now. First daughter was conceived in 2 months, second daughter was conceived in one month. So this is definitely aggrivating me as well.

My cycles became crazy after my youngest's birth so I went to my OBGYN and we checked out my hormones. I have PCOS. Not saying that you do or anything, but maybe there's a reason you're not able to conceive as quickly and getting a physical might be a great idea. This reminds me to go take my pills... ugh!

[jolee29]

Hang in there. I know its difficult not to think about it, I have been trying for over 4 years - and its all I think about!! All the best and I really hope you don't have to wait as long as I am - I think I am going for a record

[Curious6789]

Thanks for all your comments.I do work,full time 5 days a week. I already have 2 other children,(3,and 21 months) and I got prego no problem with them. Thats probably why I am stressing, b/c with the other 2, it happened so fast, now, well, its just not happening YET!!! but like you  all said, I am worrying too much. So I will try to relax, and we'll see what happens.
p.s...yes i am crazy to want another one...lol.

[illsurvive]

ya i agree with everyone. i used to think exactly like u think. i took one year to get pregnant. can u belive it!!!!!!!!!!! i had no problem at all neither my husband. but i think when god decide to give then he gives. n very important thing that i think that worked for me. dont think abt it!!!!!!! just have sex as normal. u can try lite music to create romantic atmosphere n sented candles.
                           r u working lady? if not then just find any job. that can help u to distract to think abt it

[richeygirl]

I agree with what everyone said, keep trying, it will happen; just don't stress abt it. Best of luck to you.

[Hope2OneDay]

Just out of curiosity, are you using OPK? Is that how you know you're ovulating? Or are you keeping track of your BBT?

Have you tried Pre-Seed? If you use any other kind of lubricant, it can actually kill the sperm.

It usually takes the average couple about one year to conceive, so don't give up hope yet!

If you still haven't conceived after a year, (or sooner if you're older and feel like your biological clock is ticking OR if you have health issues) then I'd talk to your doctor. Also, It could possibly have nothing to do with you, but could be your hubby who needs to be checked for low sperm count or something.

Best of luck!!

[JoyRenee]

It can take up to a year for a healthy couple to conceive. Give yourself some more time. Try taking next month off and don't chart. Just have sex when you feel like it. And don't think about it.

[mommyeve]

I had trouble when my husband and I were trying with our second.  It finally happened when I didn't think it was going to.  We never stopped trying but I stopped worrying and upsetting myself when the months were passing and nothing was happening.

My advice to you is just keep trying and try not to get discouraged if it takes a while.  If you find yourself unable to stop worrying there is no harm in asking your gyn for more advice or suggestions.

GOOD LUCK!!